"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How do I get in to this girl's pants

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remember the first girl , well I didn't give up her. I think she was too serious about school to focus on guys because she was the valedictorian and all. I've also been keeping the texts short and clean and texting her like every 4 days. I've been trying to avoid contact and only talk to her if she says hey or something. I haven't gotten the chance to kino, but I maintain eye contact and will get really close to her at some points. We were invited to a party and it was just me, her and like three other girls, and the most recent thing she texted me first was if I had a great time and stuff. Well, I want to get in this girl's pants this summer, and we're going to the same college. What do?

Also she texted me first before the party and after the party
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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another one with too much texting!

Every 4 days might not seem like much but consider the fact you are not actually seeing her, this is a lot of aimless contact

And then you text her but don;t make eye contact in person?

Think about what message this gives. It says you are comfortable with texts but weak in person. You take the lead when it is a text, but are unable to do so in real life.

is this a good look?
 

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Man I should have stated this. We hung at school everyday alone so I don't think she thinks that. She also invited me to do it. Well she's always with her friends so I'ts hard for me to say hi without me looking desperate.
 

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You shouldn't be texting someone that you feel unable to say hi to in public, this just reinforces the fact you are unable to do so in public
 

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I say hi if we happen to walk past each other and see each other. I won't say hi if she's across the room talking to her friends.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well school is over, so the only means of contact I have is phone. She doesn't like texting first, so I usually have to do it which bothers me.
 

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maybe you should ask her to go somewhere with you?

otherwise its just more aimless texting
 

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Is there anyway I can make it aim somewhere because I don't think this girl has had a bf throughout high school and she's like a 7 or 6
 
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