"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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how do i dump this girl?

blueline

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I've been dating her for around 7 months. For the last 3-4 mos, things have slid downhill. She at least 3-5x a week has these temper tantrums that can go on and on. The sex has been becoming ridiculously poor, she doesn't get wet unless I eat her out (and even that doesn't work consistently). She used to get wet and have screaming sex with me just after conversation. We just moved in together (at least the paperwork is done, I haven't moved my stuff) because she needed a roommate, so that further compounds the difficulty.

l unfortunately still have a lot of feelings for her, but with the way the sex is so terrible, I don't think this is fixable. It feels like I either have to throw her under the bus now or let her throw me under the bus later. The only reasons I haven't dumped her yet is because of the living situation, we are in the same graduate program, and frankly, I felt like this girl had so much potential initially and I can't get over this. It's hard to dump some chick over what has basically been my failure to turn her on. Same exact thing happened with my ex
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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pdx1138

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Thats a bummer Blueline, but don't move in with her. She'll never be like she was in the beginning when everything was great....and you know it.
 

st_99

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hmmm, well, how about like this..

"this obviosuly isn't working, i'm leaving you, good bye and have a nice day"


7 months isn't like some dramatic end to a 5 year relationship.. lol. don't move in, call the landlod, explain
get the details worked out and move on..
 
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