"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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how do i dump this girl?

blueline

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I've been dating her for around 7 months. For the last 3-4 mos, things have slid downhill. She at least 3-5x a week has these temper tantrums that can go on and on. The sex has been becoming ridiculously poor, she doesn't get wet unless I eat her out (and even that doesn't work consistently). She used to get wet and have screaming sex with me just after conversation. We just moved in together (at least the paperwork is done, I haven't moved my stuff) because she needed a roommate, so that further compounds the difficulty.

l unfortunately still have a lot of feelings for her, but with the way the sex is so terrible, I don't think this is fixable. It feels like I either have to throw her under the bus now or let her throw me under the bus later. The only reasons I haven't dumped her yet is because of the living situation, we are in the same graduate program, and frankly, I felt like this girl had so much potential initially and I can't get over this. It's hard to dump some chick over what has basically been my failure to turn her on. Same exact thing happened with my ex
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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pdx1138

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Thats a bummer Blueline, but don't move in with her. She'll never be like she was in the beginning when everything was great....and you know it.
 

st_99

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hmmm, well, how about like this..

"this obviosuly isn't working, i'm leaving you, good bye and have a nice day"


7 months isn't like some dramatic end to a 5 year relationship.. lol. don't move in, call the landlod, explain
get the details worked out and move on..
 
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