"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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how do i dump this girl?

blueline

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I've been dating her for around 7 months. For the last 3-4 mos, things have slid downhill. She at least 3-5x a week has these temper tantrums that can go on and on. The sex has been becoming ridiculously poor, she doesn't get wet unless I eat her out (and even that doesn't work consistently). She used to get wet and have screaming sex with me just after conversation. We just moved in together (at least the paperwork is done, I haven't moved my stuff) because she needed a roommate, so that further compounds the difficulty.

l unfortunately still have a lot of feelings for her, but with the way the sex is so terrible, I don't think this is fixable. It feels like I either have to throw her under the bus now or let her throw me under the bus later. The only reasons I haven't dumped her yet is because of the living situation, we are in the same graduate program, and frankly, I felt like this girl had so much potential initially and I can't get over this. It's hard to dump some chick over what has basically been my failure to turn her on. Same exact thing happened with my ex
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pdx1138

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Thats a bummer Blueline, but don't move in with her. She'll never be like she was in the beginning when everything was great....and you know it.
 

st_99

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hmmm, well, how about like this..

"this obviosuly isn't working, i'm leaving you, good bye and have a nice day"


7 months isn't like some dramatic end to a 5 year relationship.. lol. don't move in, call the landlod, explain
get the details worked out and move on..
 
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