"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
how do i ditch the douche?
- Thread starter beaker
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Proselytiser
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PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Is he really a douchebag? The best way is too just let the guy know straight, may be that will reform him.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
cavedweller
Don Juan
Don't worry about him...Just stick to your game plan.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Cut the problem out at its source.beaker said:
Which means you might have to start hanging out without your buddy.
When he asks why, explain the situation calmly. There's probably very little you can do about this additional guy since he isn't even your friend.
HeyPachuco!
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What I mean by Stealthly, is when he is in any emotional state (good or bad), IGNORE him. When anything comes out of his mouth, ignore anything he says. Even if he asks you for a drink or time, ignore him. Then, with attrition, it'll wear him out eventually. Maybe you just have to demonstrate you're distaste for him by leaving your main buddy behind sometimes and hanging out with other people.
I have a buddy who has friend like this from college who also kills game or puts everyone at unease. Fortunately for me, I have a big reputation amongst my peers, so if the douche makes a joke and I don't laugh. My buddies will look at me and stop laughing, eventually the Douche disbanded.
One of my boys hung out with this date rapist dude. I told him straight up. I don't like that dude and don't want him around me. And then when dude came around I was like ,I don't like you, get the hell away from us. He stopped coming around. My other friend had a borderline retard guy, who was not just brain damaged from too many drugs, he was a prick on top of it...a retard prick...seriously, anything could fly out of this guys mouth. I had to tell my buddy, if your hanging out with him, don't invite me, the guy is a joke. I didn't see my buddy for a while but eventually he smarted up and dropped the guy after he got him into a couple of scrapes. Just stand your ground, tell the truth and drop em both if you have to. Life goes on.