Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
how do i ditch the douche?
- Thread starter beaker
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Proselytiser
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PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Is he really a douchebag? The best way is too just let the guy know straight, may be that will reform him.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
cavedweller
Don Juan
Don't worry about him...Just stick to your game plan.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Cut the problem out at its source.beaker said:
Which means you might have to start hanging out without your buddy.
When he asks why, explain the situation calmly. There's probably very little you can do about this additional guy since he isn't even your friend.
HeyPachuco!
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What I mean by Stealthly, is when he is in any emotional state (good or bad), IGNORE him. When anything comes out of his mouth, ignore anything he says. Even if he asks you for a drink or time, ignore him. Then, with attrition, it'll wear him out eventually. Maybe you just have to demonstrate you're distaste for him by leaving your main buddy behind sometimes and hanging out with other people.
I have a buddy who has friend like this from college who also kills game or puts everyone at unease. Fortunately for me, I have a big reputation amongst my peers, so if the douche makes a joke and I don't laugh. My buddies will look at me and stop laughing, eventually the Douche disbanded.
One of my boys hung out with this date rapist dude. I told him straight up. I don't like that dude and don't want him around me. And then when dude came around I was like ,I don't like you, get the hell away from us. He stopped coming around. My other friend had a borderline retard guy, who was not just brain damaged from too many drugs, he was a prick on top of it...a retard prick...seriously, anything could fly out of this guys mouth. I had to tell my buddy, if your hanging out with him, don't invite me, the guy is a joke. I didn't see my buddy for a while but eventually he smarted up and dropped the guy after he got him into a couple of scrapes. Just stand your ground, tell the truth and drop em both if you have to. Life goes on.