"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
how do i ditch the douche?
- Thread starter beaker
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Proselytiser
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PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Is he really a douchebag? The best way is too just let the guy know straight, may be that will reform him.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
cavedweller
Don Juan
Don't worry about him...Just stick to your game plan.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Cut the problem out at its source.beaker said:
Which means you might have to start hanging out without your buddy.
When he asks why, explain the situation calmly. There's probably very little you can do about this additional guy since he isn't even your friend.
HeyPachuco!
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What I mean by Stealthly, is when he is in any emotional state (good or bad), IGNORE him. When anything comes out of his mouth, ignore anything he says. Even if he asks you for a drink or time, ignore him. Then, with attrition, it'll wear him out eventually. Maybe you just have to demonstrate you're distaste for him by leaving your main buddy behind sometimes and hanging out with other people.
I have a buddy who has friend like this from college who also kills game or puts everyone at unease. Fortunately for me, I have a big reputation amongst my peers, so if the douche makes a joke and I don't laugh. My buddies will look at me and stop laughing, eventually the Douche disbanded.
One of my boys hung out with this date rapist dude. I told him straight up. I don't like that dude and don't want him around me. And then when dude came around I was like ,I don't like you, get the hell away from us. He stopped coming around. My other friend had a borderline retard guy, who was not just brain damaged from too many drugs, he was a prick on top of it...a retard prick...seriously, anything could fly out of this guys mouth. I had to tell my buddy, if your hanging out with him, don't invite me, the guy is a joke. I didn't see my buddy for a while but eventually he smarted up and dropped the guy after he got him into a couple of scrapes. Just stand your ground, tell the truth and drop em both if you have to. Life goes on.