How do I deal with this? Advice Needed.

[stoned]

I got into this highly selective summer research program at my school. They only take 15 people in the whole nation. Today, I found out that my one-itis got accepted as well. It's going to be very awkward for me, and it will definatly distract me from my goals.

Earlier, I was obsessed with this girl. The way she treated me made me feel like very bad, so I just stopped talking to her, and destroyed our "friendship". When I look at her, I feel like throwing up out of sadness, that's how bad I had/have it. She treats me very badly, and now that we are going to be in the same program, I know that I'm going to cave in to her games. The only way I can deal with her is by avoiding her. Now I can't even do that. What do I do?

 

[Scought]

If this is indeed a highly selective research program, how about worrying about your career ambitions and forget even talking to this girl.

Also, there might be other people you can get to know.

 

[stoned]

The problem is that we all have to work together. I just want to stay away from her! She emasculates me every time we talk!

 

[stoned]

No advice?

 

[seagull]

15 people in the whole nation and she got picked as well? What are the odds, eh?

 

[sav]

when she starts giving you attitude, put her in her place right away.. and dont become a pushover.. being nice to b itches will get you nowhere..

 

[WisdomofaMadman]

Since you got into the research program, don't drop out of it because of some chick acting like a b*tch, even if she is your oneitis. The program is too good to bail on, both for the resume and the actual experience.

Consider the added drama of this girl as just another learning experience.

I'd say that you should be civil, but indifferent to her. Treat her as a coworker, nothing more. If she treats you rudely or tries to emasculate you, call her on it. If she does it in front of other people in the program, neg her to turn the tide in your favor.

Also: make sure you make some friends in the program IMMEDIATELY! They will be allies to support you when she tries to knock you down, and provide the social proof that you aren't who she says you are.

Also, what kind of 'friend' treats you like shyt?

 

[danielzxc]

Why don't you be an AFC (I mean, pretend to be one if you are not) and tell her you love her? According to dj theory, this will turn her off so bad SHE will avoid YOU. Problem solved.

 

[stoned]

anymore advice guys?

 

[Obsidian]

Why don't you be an AFC (I mean, pretend to be one if you are not) and tell her you love her? According to dj theory, this will turn her off so bad SHE will avoid YOU.

lol, nice

anymore advice guys?

Grow some ballz and stop letting yourself feel infatuation for girls who don't treat you right.