"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I deal with this? Advice Needed.

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I got into this highly selective summer research program at my school. They only take 15 people in the whole nation. Today, I found out that my one-itis got accepted as well. It's going to be very awkward for me, and it will definatly distract me from my goals.

Earlier, I was obsessed with this girl. The way she treated me made me feel like very bad, so I just stopped talking to her, and destroyed our "friendship". When I look at her, I feel like throwing up out of sadness, that's how bad I had/have it. She treats me very badly, and now that we are going to be in the same program, I know that I'm going to cave in to her games. The only way I can deal with her is by avoiding her. Now I can't even do that. What do I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If this is indeed a highly selective research program, how about worrying about your career ambitions and forget even talking to this girl.

Also, there might be other people you can get to know.
 
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The problem is that we all have to work together. I just want to stay away from her! She emasculates me every time we talk!
 
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15 people in the whole nation and she got picked as well? What are the odds, eh?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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when she starts giving you attitude, put her in her place right away.. and dont become a pushover.. being nice to b itches will get you nowhere..
 
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Since you got into the research program, don't drop out of it because of some chick acting like a b*tch, even if she is your oneitis. The program is too good to bail on, both for the resume and the actual experience.

Consider the added drama of this girl as just another learning experience.

I'd say that you should be civil, but indifferent to her. Treat her as a coworker, nothing more. If she treats you rudely or tries to emasculate you, call her on it. If she does it in front of other people in the program, neg her to turn the tide in your favor.

Also: make sure you make some friends in the program IMMEDIATELY! They will be allies to support you when she tries to knock you down, and provide the social proof that you aren't who she says you are.

Also, what kind of 'friend' treats you like shyt?
 
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Why don't you be an AFC (I mean, pretend to be one if you are not) and tell her you love her? According to dj theory, this will turn her off so bad SHE will avoid YOU. Problem solved.
 
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Why don't you be an AFC (I mean, pretend to be one if you are not) and tell her you love her? According to dj theory, this will turn her off so bad SHE will avoid YOU.
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lol, nice


anymore advice guys?
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Grow some ballz and stop letting yourself feel infatuation for girls who don't treat you right.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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