"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do i become outgoing and fun?/Keep interest

youngmack

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I feel that i am very boring. Whenever i converse(usualy through text) the conversations are always dead, i never have any idea what to say or what to do.Nothing ever comes to mind. I have a feeling that this is the reason why i dont pick up or have as much girls as i should.. i mean dont get me wrong i attract a good amount of girls but its just keeping them interested,and being outgoing and fun with them is my problem. I basically run them away and have them lose attraction with my boring conversations and unFUNness
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Chamber36

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The best thing you can do if you want to be interesting is to have an interesting lifestyle. Make sure you do something fun which you could talk about every 2 or 3 weeks. Go to parties, travel, etc. You should go clubbing at least twice a week or more if you really want to get into a talkative state.

If you want to become a better orator I guess you could read "How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie", though the book didn't do much for me personally. I'm sure some other people will have good recommendations for that.

If you want to learn to have fun (without meeting people lol) you should watch Fresh Prince of Bel Air, Jim Carrey, Robin Williams, Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock, or whoever you like.

I used to have the same [problem where I could attract but when I talked too much, interest would often plummet.

You probably need to work on your (body) language skills. Don't lean in, keep your voice tone low, talk with pauses(at a volume to cause the other person to lean in), not too much smiling(sign of weakness), keep your eye-contact strong as a laser beam, don't let another person push you from the space you're standing, etc. Keep everything in moderation.

I recommend that you read The Game by Neil Strauss or The Art of Mackin' by Tariq Nasheed.
 
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