"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How do i become outgoing and fun?/Keep interest

youngmack

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I feel that i am very boring. Whenever i converse(usualy through text) the conversations are always dead, i never have any idea what to say or what to do.Nothing ever comes to mind. I have a feeling that this is the reason why i dont pick up or have as much girls as i should.. i mean dont get me wrong i attract a good amount of girls but its just keeping them interested,and being outgoing and fun with them is my problem. I basically run them away and have them lose attraction with my boring conversations and unFUNness
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Chamber36

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The best thing you can do if you want to be interesting is to have an interesting lifestyle. Make sure you do something fun which you could talk about every 2 or 3 weeks. Go to parties, travel, etc. You should go clubbing at least twice a week or more if you really want to get into a talkative state.

If you want to become a better orator I guess you could read "How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie", though the book didn't do much for me personally. I'm sure some other people will have good recommendations for that.

If you want to learn to have fun (without meeting people lol) you should watch Fresh Prince of Bel Air, Jim Carrey, Robin Williams, Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock, or whoever you like.

I used to have the same [problem where I could attract but when I talked too much, interest would often plummet.

You probably need to work on your (body) language skills. Don't lean in, keep your voice tone low, talk with pauses(at a volume to cause the other person to lean in), not too much smiling(sign of weakness), keep your eye-contact strong as a laser beam, don't let another person push you from the space you're standing, etc. Keep everything in moderation.

I recommend that you read The Game by Neil Strauss or The Art of Mackin' by Tariq Nasheed.
 
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