"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do i become outgoing and fun?/Keep interest

youngmack

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I feel that i am very boring. Whenever i converse(usualy through text) the conversations are always dead, i never have any idea what to say or what to do.Nothing ever comes to mind. I have a feeling that this is the reason why i dont pick up or have as much girls as i should.. i mean dont get me wrong i attract a good amount of girls but its just keeping them interested,and being outgoing and fun with them is my problem. I basically run them away and have them lose attraction with my boring conversations and unFUNness
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Chamber36

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The best thing you can do if you want to be interesting is to have an interesting lifestyle. Make sure you do something fun which you could talk about every 2 or 3 weeks. Go to parties, travel, etc. You should go clubbing at least twice a week or more if you really want to get into a talkative state.

If you want to become a better orator I guess you could read "How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie", though the book didn't do much for me personally. I'm sure some other people will have good recommendations for that.

If you want to learn to have fun (without meeting people lol) you should watch Fresh Prince of Bel Air, Jim Carrey, Robin Williams, Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock, or whoever you like.

I used to have the same [problem where I could attract but when I talked too much, interest would often plummet.

You probably need to work on your (body) language skills. Don't lean in, keep your voice tone low, talk with pauses(at a volume to cause the other person to lean in), not too much smiling(sign of weakness), keep your eye-contact strong as a laser beam, don't let another person push you from the space you're standing, etc. Keep everything in moderation.

I recommend that you read The Game by Neil Strauss or The Art of Mackin' by Tariq Nasheed.
 
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