"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do I become compassionate again?

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Four months ago, I didn't have the desire to rush. I cared about everybody that came my way. The women loved me for that, so did the men, and anybody I spoke to I gave them genuine attention.

These days, I feel as though talking to these people is a waste of time.

Does anybody have any recommendations on how I can get my vibe back, and how I can make people feel good about themselves again?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Thanks dynamically, dynamically WHAT may I ask?

I had a major epiphany about compassion a few months ago, the concepts that were born from it were endless. I enetered flow, and the state stayed with me permanently for days on end.

I don't know where it went these days.

Thanks for the link, Vibes topic and your own should be a bunch of help. I just hope I can se in hindsight just what barrier I have put up.
 

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ethnomethodologist, i've been there too. when i first went on a big adventure by myself to see what i was made of. it's like when i returned, nobody was worth my time. it's like i could not relate to my old friends anymore. when i asked them hows life, it was the same stories. i left a boy and came back a man. i could not relate anymore.

i think your compassion problem lost, lies in the fact that people you talked to either didn't listen to you, be it advice or whatever. sometimes when people come and ask me for help and i give them advice and they don't listen....it sucks. why bother again. soon it makes you feel like that, with almost everyone. or maybe those people that you lost compassion for always came to you with there problems and soon that negative energy transfers from them to you.

maybe it's the weather. sometimes when it's cold or cloudy that just ruins my day.
 

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It's cold and cloudy 6 out of 7 days a week:(
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What helped for me to "become compassionate" unintentionally was by studying buddhism and zen. A lot of the teachings in buddhism can be applied in daily life to make things more positive.
 

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aiight azn bawler I think I might, I've wanted to study zen for a long time now. Read so many stories about chinese philosphers, and mediatation is something I think I NEED!

My emotional lines seem so frayed as of late, I need to make them stronger. There are times I sit at work listening to the petty squabbles that I become irate very quick...
 

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As an ethnomethodologist I'm not surprised you said "azn bawler" :), sigh, this account is sort of old and I don't play basketball anymore.

Anyway, "mediatation is something I think I NEED!", it's something everyone needs. I've been meditating for some years now and it just chills the hell out of you. Not only do you end up feeling relaxed, but people will start feeling the vibes. It's interesting, have fun with it.
 

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Thanks, I've gone through the basics tons of times, but not until recently have I ever thought I had the need for it.
 
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