"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I be an amazing boyfriend?

T Money

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I see these girls on myspace that are like "I have an amazing boyfriend!" and they show a picture. Anyway, i'm almost in a LTR right now, we're both in a neutral zone, she just got out of a 2 year relationship so she's not commiting to anything. But I want to be "that guy", that one who she absolutely loves and adores. Does that include buying her flowers and treating her like gold? I would assume so, but then again, I don't want to come off as needy and like she's the only one for me, because women pick up on that.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Rollo Tomassi

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How to be an 'amazing boyfriend' on MySpace:

Take a shot of your 6 pack abs with your shoddy cellphone cam and post it as your main avatar pic. See? Real easy.
 

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Take her to dinner, be a cool, fun guy. Open doors for her etc.

Most of the guys who don't know how to get girls will tell you "Don't buy her dinner, flowers, etc. etc."
 

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just be crazy and think that you are the master.you rule..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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blinkwatt

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piterx said:
just be crazy and think that you are the master.you rule..
BINGO,Im currently in the works of stealing this girl from her boyfriend by doing ubsurd things. I asked her out even though she knew I knew about her boyfriend,I didnt back down,low and behold she is slowly dropping her boyfriend for me. I asked her "quick 5 words that describe me" and she responded with "tricky,****y,funny,bold and different",now if that isn't a perfect answer I dont know what is. Just reassure her of your ****y & funniness, "you know how many other chicks would love to be going out with the best guy ever,I dont know how you managed to pull it off"
 

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T Money said:
I see these girls on myspace that are like "I have an amazing boyfriend!" and they show a picture. Anyway, i'm almost in a LTR right now, we're both in a neutral zone, she just got out of a 2 year relationship so she's not commiting to anything. But I want to be "that guy", that one who she absolutely loves and adores. Does that include buying her flowers and treating her like gold? I would assume so, but then again, I don't want to come off as needy and like she's the only one for me, because women pick up on that.
Def. do NOT buy her flowers and "treat her like gold" :crackup: she will lose interest in you faster than...well....fast.
 

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A girl i know says she is sick of her boyfreind because he never compliments her. So that should be something you do (sincerly and spairingly)

If you keep her on her toe's keep her wondering does he really like me and then you make a gesture to show that you do (flowers maybe?) then this will help.
 

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Look, do you really want to be an 'amazing' boyfriend? Do you think that there is only one kind of an amazing boyfriend on this planet? Everyone can be an amazing boyfriend but just don't fall in the traps of what you see on pictures, movies, commercials, and - especially - lovesongs. Make her laugh with your jokes, don't be too serious and dont't put her on pole position in your life.
And don't forget: after the first 3 -6 months you start to irritate about this girls (this happens with al girls) and then you have already forgotten this question because then you realize that you can't be amazing all the time!

Back from hell,

LittleBigOne
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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there's no clear cut answer to this question. You need to get in a few relationships and experience them for yourself. Through experimentation, you will learn what it takes.
 

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spaceman2001 said:
Take her to dinner, be a cool, fun guy. Open doors for her etc.

Most of the guys who don't know how to get girls will tell you "Don't buy her dinner, flowers, etc. etc."

After you're done following this clowns advice why don't you clean the cumstains off the shirt she wiped her pvssy with after the real guy dumped a load or twelve in her.

Trix are for kids.
 

T Money

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Well I have no problem keeping her interested in me, I am funny, we do fun spontaneous adventurous sh!t that she says she's never done with anyone before. I just want to keep it going, even after the puppy-love phase.
 

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Give her "amazing" sex,after that not alot matters.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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