"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I approach this?

rAFCOliver

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So I went out on Saturday with friends, spotted someone I used to know at the club, one thing lead to another and we ended up back at her place.

Ended up having sex pretty briefly but I was pretty smashed and didn’t finish. I come home, speak to her the next day and sleep off the hangover.

Thing is, I want to ask her if she’s on birth control cause I’m paranoid as **** now. Should I just send her a message “hey, just thought I know it was fairly brief the other day but are you on birth control just in case?”
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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backseatjuan

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How would she know if it's your baby? If you're that afraid, just go NC! Man, it's always the dude that talks too much with these women gets to be the daddy lul
 

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I don't know how to handle this. I always asked before having sex or wrapped it up, regardless of how drunk I was. It will probably be fine this time, but always go out prepared, bring at least 1 condom.

That said, whether you know or not won't change the outcome, it will just let you know the outcome in advance. Asking her won't make her any less pregnant if she is, but probably she isn't and she was probably on birth control.
 

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Just say “hey, you on the pill?”

That simple

I’m out here barebacking and busting nuts and you’re crying like a little girl
 
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