"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How do I approach this?

rAFCOliver

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So I went out on Saturday with friends, spotted someone I used to know at the club, one thing lead to another and we ended up back at her place.

Ended up having sex pretty briefly but I was pretty smashed and didn’t finish. I come home, speak to her the next day and sleep off the hangover.

Thing is, I want to ask her if she’s on birth control cause I’m paranoid as **** now. Should I just send her a message “hey, just thought I know it was fairly brief the other day but are you on birth control just in case?”
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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backseatjuan

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How would she know if it's your baby? If you're that afraid, just go NC! Man, it's always the dude that talks too much with these women gets to be the daddy lul
 

Serenity

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I don't know how to handle this. I always asked before having sex or wrapped it up, regardless of how drunk I was. It will probably be fine this time, but always go out prepared, bring at least 1 condom.

That said, whether you know or not won't change the outcome, it will just let you know the outcome in advance. Asking her won't make her any less pregnant if she is, but probably she isn't and she was probably on birth control.
 

Murk

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Just say “hey, you on the pill?”

That simple

I’m out here barebacking and busting nuts and you’re crying like a little girl
 
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