"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do get a fat ***** to lose weight so you can date her

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I'm attracted to this girl on very many different levels. She is a sexy 5'9" 140 lb girl. the only problem is right now she weighs like 180.

i would like to date her but she is too fat. how can i persuade her to go lose weight? invite her to the gym with me as friends and "race" her to a better body and if she does well then i will date her?

slip diet drugs or cocaine into her food or drink?

steal all her food?

any suggestions?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Enjin 7
I'm attracted to this girl on very many different levels. She is a sexy 5'9" 140 lb girl.

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So are you or are you not attracted to her? If you are, then her weight apparently is no problem to you, unless of course you are embarassed to show her off.

Stop trying to "fix" girls you are not in a relationship with. You can't, or better yet, you shouldn't waste your time and just go for one you are totally happy with, AS IS.
 
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haha the thing is i cant find a girl im happy with "as is" and weight is such an easy thing to fix.

im attracted to everything but her freakin fat body. face is good. body has potential. its just fat. lol
 
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Don't try to change the girl.

Either appreciate her as she is (like you say you could) or next.

-Bill
 
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You can't find a girl who is decent looking with no weight problem? Where do you live, at the Ben&Jerry's factory?

Approach the subject with caution, and never call them fat (it will backfire, plus you can mess up anything with her hooking you up later on should you keep her as a friend).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Enjin 7
She is a sexy 5'9" 140 lb girl. the only problem is right now she weighs like 180.
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How the hell can she weigh 140 yet, weigh 180 right now?? How do you figure? You t\gotta new way of looking at the world we're all missing out on??
 
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her ideal body weight is 140 and she weighs 180.

and to answer the location question

i live in mississippi, the ****ing fattest state in the world. besides alaska. and they have polar bears.
 
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Won't she still be like all saggy and sh*t after she loses weight? Gross.
 
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Tell her so that way you'll have no chance with her and find another girl that doesn't live in Mississippi.
 
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how do you know she'll date your ass after she loses weight? She may want to next you and find someone who isnt so caught up in her percentage of body fat and fi she gains weight again are you doing to dump her on the spot? I smell red flags.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i dont think youll be able to pull off this one....40 lbs are not going to be that easy to loose first of all, so shes going to be willing in everyway to loose that weight, in order to make it happen.
 
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Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
how do you know she'll date your ass after she loses weight? She may want to next you and find someone who isnt so caught up in her percentage of body fat and fi she gains weight again are you doing to dump her on the spot? I smell red flags.
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I am AFC but you may ignore my opinion if you all want. But damn you hit it rite on the money SeldomSeen :). I would say date her as she is now and maybe she would lose weight for ya and start gettin all spiffied up for ya too but that's just my AFC opinion.... I know not many people like it when AFC's give advices so sry :(
 
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Re: Re: RE:

Originally posted by SinisaD
I am AFC but you may ignore my opinion if you all want. But damn you hit it rite on the money SeldomSeen :). I would say date her as she is now and maybe she would lose weight for ya and start gettin all spiffied up for ya too but that's just my AFC opinion.... I know not many people like it when AFC's give advices so sry :(
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Advice is advice. Doesnt matter if your AFC, NFC, NFL, in the NBA on TBS or PBS trying to seduce a woman with PMS...we all give advice. Some good, some not so good but it all comes from our experience in life. You only choose to be AFC, its a matter of mind over mind or something I dont know Im drunk
 
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Re: Re: Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
Advice is advice. Doesnt matter if your AFC, NFC, NFL, in the NBA on TBS or PBS trying to seduce a woman with PMS...we all give advice. Some good, some not so good but it all comes from our experience in life. You only choose to be AFC, its a matter of mind over mind or something I dont know Im drunk
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As most people I was driven here by a certain girl. I am currently reading over the materials and putting them in practice because I do not wish to be AFC I wish to be a DJ. I am 19 and it's a good of a time as any to start getting my life together and do what I want. O and SeldomSeen you give good advices for a drunk guy ::D
 
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Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
how do you know she'll date your ass after she loses weight? She may want to next you and find someone who isnt so caught up in her percentage of body fat and fi she gains weight again are you doing to dump her on the spot? I smell red flags.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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