"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do get a fat ***** to lose weight so you can date her

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I'm attracted to this girl on very many different levels. She is a sexy 5'9" 140 lb girl. the only problem is right now she weighs like 180.

i would like to date her but she is too fat. how can i persuade her to go lose weight? invite her to the gym with me as friends and "race" her to a better body and if she does well then i will date her?

slip diet drugs or cocaine into her food or drink?

steal all her food?

any suggestions?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by Enjin 7
I'm attracted to this girl on very many different levels. She is a sexy 5'9" 140 lb girl.

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So are you or are you not attracted to her? If you are, then her weight apparently is no problem to you, unless of course you are embarassed to show her off.

Stop trying to "fix" girls you are not in a relationship with. You can't, or better yet, you shouldn't waste your time and just go for one you are totally happy with, AS IS.
 
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haha the thing is i cant find a girl im happy with "as is" and weight is such an easy thing to fix.

im attracted to everything but her freakin fat body. face is good. body has potential. its just fat. lol
 
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Don't try to change the girl.

Either appreciate her as she is (like you say you could) or next.

-Bill
 
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You can't find a girl who is decent looking with no weight problem? Where do you live, at the Ben&Jerry's factory?

Approach the subject with caution, and never call them fat (it will backfire, plus you can mess up anything with her hooking you up later on should you keep her as a friend).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Enjin 7
She is a sexy 5'9" 140 lb girl. the only problem is right now she weighs like 180.
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How the hell can she weigh 140 yet, weigh 180 right now?? How do you figure? You t\gotta new way of looking at the world we're all missing out on??
 
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her ideal body weight is 140 and she weighs 180.

and to answer the location question

i live in mississippi, the ****ing fattest state in the world. besides alaska. and they have polar bears.
 
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Won't she still be like all saggy and sh*t after she loses weight? Gross.
 
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Tell her so that way you'll have no chance with her and find another girl that doesn't live in Mississippi.
 
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how do you know she'll date your ass after she loses weight? She may want to next you and find someone who isnt so caught up in her percentage of body fat and fi she gains weight again are you doing to dump her on the spot? I smell red flags.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i dont think youll be able to pull off this one....40 lbs are not going to be that easy to loose first of all, so shes going to be willing in everyway to loose that weight, in order to make it happen.
 
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Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
how do you know she'll date your ass after she loses weight? She may want to next you and find someone who isnt so caught up in her percentage of body fat and fi she gains weight again are you doing to dump her on the spot? I smell red flags.
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I am AFC but you may ignore my opinion if you all want. But damn you hit it rite on the money SeldomSeen :). I would say date her as she is now and maybe she would lose weight for ya and start gettin all spiffied up for ya too but that's just my AFC opinion.... I know not many people like it when AFC's give advices so sry :(
 
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Re: Re: RE:

Originally posted by SinisaD
I am AFC but you may ignore my opinion if you all want. But damn you hit it rite on the money SeldomSeen :). I would say date her as she is now and maybe she would lose weight for ya and start gettin all spiffied up for ya too but that's just my AFC opinion.... I know not many people like it when AFC's give advices so sry :(
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Advice is advice. Doesnt matter if your AFC, NFC, NFL, in the NBA on TBS or PBS trying to seduce a woman with PMS...we all give advice. Some good, some not so good but it all comes from our experience in life. You only choose to be AFC, its a matter of mind over mind or something I dont know Im drunk
 
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Re: Re: Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
Advice is advice. Doesnt matter if your AFC, NFC, NFL, in the NBA on TBS or PBS trying to seduce a woman with PMS...we all give advice. Some good, some not so good but it all comes from our experience in life. You only choose to be AFC, its a matter of mind over mind or something I dont know Im drunk
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As most people I was driven here by a certain girl. I am currently reading over the materials and putting them in practice because I do not wish to be AFC I wish to be a DJ. I am 19 and it's a good of a time as any to start getting my life together and do what I want. O and SeldomSeen you give good advices for a drunk guy ::D
 
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Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
how do you know she'll date your ass after she loses weight? She may want to next you and find someone who isnt so caught up in her percentage of body fat and fi she gains weight again are you doing to dump her on the spot? I smell red flags.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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