PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Be a man. If you say something stick to it. Don't bend it. Don't be passive aggressive (doing the same thing she does). Stick to your damn words. Don't commit the same sin Adam did in the garden of Eden.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How disrespectful was this?
- Thread starter the_stig
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Serg897
Master Don Juan
As is typical on this forum I find the calls for dumping her a bit premature. However, if this is bothering you you need to take action to make sure she gets the message that this sort of behavior wont be tolerated.
The number one important thing here is to keep your cool. Getting angry or jealous is not going to be attractive to her.
I agree with the other posters here that say you should withdraw some attention and start hanging out with other females. Start putting your eggs in other baskets. If/when she calls you out on it, simply bring up this example. She will get the message. If she seems NOT to care, then her interest is low and you need to drop her.
The number one important thing here is to keep your cool. Getting angry or jealous is not going to be attractive to her.
I agree with the other posters here that say you should withdraw some attention and start hanging out with other females. Start putting your eggs in other baskets. If/when she calls you out on it, simply bring up this example. She will get the message. If she seems NOT to care, then her interest is low and you need to drop her.
Yeah... Don't let her get away with this kind of crap, either. Even if it is a test - its to see what she can get away with. You don't want to be in a position where its only ok if she does this, but not you. That's how a lot of guys lose the control, and their balls. Sadly, its all a game of power. If you do it - she goes ape****. If she does it - you're jealous and over-reactive. Nonsense. Don't let her turn things around to her advantage. Better yet - just get rid of her. She's either playing you or playing crap games. Neither is worth it. She sounds immature.backbreaker said:
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
This reminds of a comment she made last week. She asks why I don't want to have sex as often as I used to, which I brush it off without an answer, so she mutters "Guess I'll have to get it somewhere else then". I stare her down and say "WHAT?!" but she sarcastically says she didn't mean it. Could be nothing, could be everything...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
AFC's tend to be more defensive coordinators when girls act. they want try to not look this or don't come off at that. F that. the ***** went out with another dude, and is just acting immature alltogether. she needs to go and f you had more plates, you wouldn't be considering this broad in the first place.floydb25 said:
there is just a certain level of respect i expect from my GIRLFRIEND. which is why, i am not quick to make every girl i dated my GF. I only dated, seriously 3 girls since i have been grown and i'm married to one of them.
if it's a girl i'm just fvcking i wouldn't think twice about it. i'd just say oh well i will still f you but i'm not going to date you. but if it's a girl that widdled through all my plates and **** test that were thrown to her and showed me she was GF material.. lol first of all she would know better, but assuming she did she would do so knowing full damn well what would happen.
my wife has male friends. not male friends but, she's in the past, gone out ot eat to catch up with guys and **** like that. the difference being she's actually asked me if it were okay before hand. no sneaking around and ****.
lol you dont 'think for one second she doesn't know what she did doesn't look right? she konws. i promise you she knows.
From what you just described, it seems like there likely is something going on between the two.
1. You don't call some other guy "babe" when your boyfriend is right there.
When that incident occurred, you should have said "so he's your babe now huh? I'm guessing he upgraded from chump status. I better watch out, it looks like I have some competition."
Play it cool and calm, but do not be passive. Speak up, take control, act like it's no big deal, but speak up.
1. You don't call some other guy "babe" when your boyfriend is right there.
When that incident occurred, you should have said "so he's your babe now huh? I'm guessing he upgraded from chump status. I better watch out, it looks like I have some competition."
Play it cool and calm, but do not be passive. Speak up, take control, act like it's no big deal, but speak up.
the_great_gaia
Senior Don Juan
Give her your a$$ to kiss. I'd start spinning plates ASAP. You never know whats on her mind when your back is turned.. she has already worn another guy's sweater on hers.