PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Be a man. If you say something stick to it. Don't bend it. Don't be passive aggressive (doing the same thing she does). Stick to your damn words. Don't commit the same sin Adam did in the garden of Eden.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How disrespectful was this?
- Thread starter the_stig
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Serg897
Master Don Juan
As is typical on this forum I find the calls for dumping her a bit premature. However, if this is bothering you you need to take action to make sure she gets the message that this sort of behavior wont be tolerated.
The number one important thing here is to keep your cool. Getting angry or jealous is not going to be attractive to her.
I agree with the other posters here that say you should withdraw some attention and start hanging out with other females. Start putting your eggs in other baskets. If/when she calls you out on it, simply bring up this example. She will get the message. If she seems NOT to care, then her interest is low and you need to drop her.
The number one important thing here is to keep your cool. Getting angry or jealous is not going to be attractive to her.
I agree with the other posters here that say you should withdraw some attention and start hanging out with other females. Start putting your eggs in other baskets. If/when she calls you out on it, simply bring up this example. She will get the message. If she seems NOT to care, then her interest is low and you need to drop her.
Yeah... Don't let her get away with this kind of crap, either. Even if it is a test - its to see what she can get away with. You don't want to be in a position where its only ok if she does this, but not you. That's how a lot of guys lose the control, and their balls. Sadly, its all a game of power. If you do it - she goes ape****. If she does it - you're jealous and over-reactive. Nonsense. Don't let her turn things around to her advantage. Better yet - just get rid of her. She's either playing you or playing crap games. Neither is worth it. She sounds immature.backbreaker said:
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
This reminds of a comment she made last week. She asks why I don't want to have sex as often as I used to, which I brush it off without an answer, so she mutters "Guess I'll have to get it somewhere else then". I stare her down and say "WHAT?!" but she sarcastically says she didn't mean it. Could be nothing, could be everything...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
AFC's tend to be more defensive coordinators when girls act. they want try to not look this or don't come off at that. F that. the ***** went out with another dude, and is just acting immature alltogether. she needs to go and f you had more plates, you wouldn't be considering this broad in the first place.floydb25 said:
there is just a certain level of respect i expect from my GIRLFRIEND. which is why, i am not quick to make every girl i dated my GF. I only dated, seriously 3 girls since i have been grown and i'm married to one of them.
if it's a girl i'm just fvcking i wouldn't think twice about it. i'd just say oh well i will still f you but i'm not going to date you. but if it's a girl that widdled through all my plates and **** test that were thrown to her and showed me she was GF material.. lol first of all she would know better, but assuming she did she would do so knowing full damn well what would happen.
my wife has male friends. not male friends but, she's in the past, gone out ot eat to catch up with guys and **** like that. the difference being she's actually asked me if it were okay before hand. no sneaking around and ****.
lol you dont 'think for one second she doesn't know what she did doesn't look right? she konws. i promise you she knows.
From what you just described, it seems like there likely is something going on between the two.
1. You don't call some other guy "babe" when your boyfriend is right there.
When that incident occurred, you should have said "so he's your babe now huh? I'm guessing he upgraded from chump status. I better watch out, it looks like I have some competition."
Play it cool and calm, but do not be passive. Speak up, take control, act like it's no big deal, but speak up.
1. You don't call some other guy "babe" when your boyfriend is right there.
When that incident occurred, you should have said "so he's your babe now huh? I'm guessing he upgraded from chump status. I better watch out, it looks like I have some competition."
Play it cool and calm, but do not be passive. Speak up, take control, act like it's no big deal, but speak up.
the_great_gaia
Senior Don Juan
Give her your a$$ to kiss. I'd start spinning plates ASAP. You never know whats on her mind when your back is turned.. she has already worn another guy's sweater on hers.