I understand.
A man must always strive to profit from every encounter in all sphere of his life, that's the masculine path.
In OP's case, there's no profit to be had.
Pettiness is primarily a feminine trait.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How did you get an ex wife to sleep with you?
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A man must always strive to profit from every encounter in all sphere of his life, that's the masculine path.
In OP's case, there's no profit to be had.
Pettiness is primarily a feminine trait.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Don't waste your time with an ex. She brought you a lot of pain so I would say good riddance. Stay far away, run, never look back, and if you need an ego boost then just let the new woman or women in your life boost your ego. Although I would say having sex with anyone for an ego boost, ex or not, is a bad idea. This is a question I would ask myself. It might not be a popular question but I would ask it. "If I accidentally got this woman pregnant, would I be able to deal with her being the mother of my kid? ". In spite of taking precautions it could happen. This might prevent you from getting involved with crazy women/psychos.
Then u r teaching urself to succeed through revenge.
Pettiness is then used as the source of motivation.
And when you need more motivation, you'll indulge in more pettiness, feeding those emotions until it turns hateful.
Is that a profitable venture towards being a man?
When at the crossroads in life one has to remain calm and choose wisely which path he wants to take.
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I tend to forget my ex-wife and I got married in the first place because it's like a fantasy novel or movie. Maybe it's an implanted fake memory from "Total Recall" company. Nothing in my current reality indicates that ever happened except for some photographs or obscure memories, or maybe a top secret government file that has a divorce record - but it's all classified and part of a secret experiment of national security proportions, located inside a court office somewhere in my city.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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The legal divorce happened around the end of August 2015. The break-down of the marriage and separation occurred on October 18, 2014. (Incidentally the breakup of a former relationship with another girl occurred on November 18, 2012 - so both break-ups would be about 1 year and 11 months apart).
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Another way to "up" your ex is to sleep with her friends. You don't have to worry about telling your ex about it, because it'll get back to her without your help.