I understand.
A man must always strive to profit from every encounter in all sphere of his life, that's the masculine path.
In OP's case, there's no profit to be had.
Pettiness is primarily a feminine trait.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How did you get an ex wife to sleep with you?
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A man must always strive to profit from every encounter in all sphere of his life, that's the masculine path.
In OP's case, there's no profit to be had.
Pettiness is primarily a feminine trait.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Don't waste your time with an ex. She brought you a lot of pain so I would say good riddance. Stay far away, run, never look back, and if you need an ego boost then just let the new woman or women in your life boost your ego. Although I would say having sex with anyone for an ego boost, ex or not, is a bad idea. This is a question I would ask myself. It might not be a popular question but I would ask it. "If I accidentally got this woman pregnant, would I be able to deal with her being the mother of my kid? ". In spite of taking precautions it could happen. This might prevent you from getting involved with crazy women/psychos.
Then u r teaching urself to succeed through revenge.
Pettiness is then used as the source of motivation.
And when you need more motivation, you'll indulge in more pettiness, feeding those emotions until it turns hateful.
Is that a profitable venture towards being a man?
When at the crossroads in life one has to remain calm and choose wisely which path he wants to take.
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I tend to forget my ex-wife and I got married in the first place because it's like a fantasy novel or movie. Maybe it's an implanted fake memory from "Total Recall" company. Nothing in my current reality indicates that ever happened except for some photographs or obscure memories, or maybe a top secret government file that has a divorce record - but it's all classified and part of a secret experiment of national security proportions, located inside a court office somewhere in my city.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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The legal divorce happened around the end of August 2015. The break-down of the marriage and separation occurred on October 18, 2014. (Incidentally the breakup of a former relationship with another girl occurred on November 18, 2012 - so both break-ups would be about 1 year and 11 months apart).
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Another way to "up" your ex is to sleep with her friends. You don't have to worry about telling your ex about it, because it'll get back to her without your help.