"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How did I handle this?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well number one, don't use texts like that. Texting is cancer to attraction. I'm not sure what the context is, what is she trying to do? It seems though you whined about a lack of attention from her which is a bit weak, then tried to regain frame and it looks like you mostly failed. You should have just withdrew your attention as that is the best currency you have early on.

It's really hard to tell exactly what's going on with context and previous messages though.
 

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I believe you went NC, then couldn't stand it and went about communicating with her thus her reply.

The result; you ended up whiny and lost frame.
 

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Well number one, don't use texts like that. Texting is cancer to attraction. I'm not sure what the context is, what is she trying to do? It seems though you whined about a lack of attention from her which is a bit weak, then tried to regain frame and it looks like you mostly failed. You should have just withdrew your attention as that is the best currency you have early on.

It's really hard to tell exactly what's going on with context and previous messages though.
I hardly text her only to set up dates.. she sent me a pointless text message about someone house burning down.. I don't even like the person nor would I care... I've told her in the past I don't like being hassled with text messages.. she just said what I said lol
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I hardly text her only to set up dates.. she sent me a pointless text message about someone house burning down.. I don't even like the person nor would I care... I've told her in the past I don't like being hassled with text messages.. she just said what I said lol
I just don't get the point then. Just ignore the text, block her number. If a girl is contacting you then you want to encourage it, not make her afraid to text you. Replying when you feel like it is fine, but punishing her for it doesn't make sense if you want her as a plate.
 

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I just don't get the point then. Just ignore the text, block her number. If a girl is contacting you then you want to encourage it, not make her afraid to text you. Replying when you feel like it is fine, but punishing her for it doesn't make sense if you want her as a plate.
No I didn't punish her.. just said her text was pointless.. then she started raving on lol kinda put her knickers in a knot lol
 

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Most of chicks drivel is pointless. The points is that she is still reaching out. And you're meant to at least pretend to have feelings. Whether or not you like the person a couple of words of sympathy about somebody's house Burning Down would probably have played well. Mate I hope this is just you having an off day.
 

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It's nice being young and stupid.

The things we do and lie being not affected, brings back fond memories:D
 

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Most of chicks drivel is pointless. The points is that she is still reaching out. And you're meant to at least pretend to have feelings. Whether or not you like the person a couple of words of sympathy about somebody's house Burning Down would probably have played well. Mate I hope this is just you having an off day.
Yeah I'm having a really bad day crashed my car and everything
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Relax, I get the feeling you'll do just fine.

The only people that don't have any problems are those people 6 feet under in the cemetery.

Life is good. Read DJ bible to strengthen your frame.

Frame is everything.

Frame(how u think) + methods(how u do things) = results you get.
 

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Relax, I get the feeling you'll do just fine.

The only people that don't have any problems are those people 6 feet under in the cemetery.

Life is good. Read DJ bible to strengthen your frame.

Frame is everything.

Frame(how u think) + methods(how u do things) = results you get.
I'm getting the silent treatment now lol do I just leave her alone for a while?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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