"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How did I do - Part 2 UPDATE!!!

Smoothaswetsoap

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This is an update with the same girl in "How did I do?"...

I called the chick today to say happy thanksgiving and to see what she was doing tonight... she didn't pick up.

She returned my phone call about 1.5 hours later asking whats up.

Convo:

"Hey Mary"

*"Hey, whats up, you called?"

"Yeah I was wondering if you wanted to go somewhere with me and my friends"

*"Who's us?"

"My friends"

*"Who are they"

"You don't know them"

-I quickly change the subject, "Happy Thanksgiving, what are you doing tomorrow?"

*"I have to stay home to take care of my grandparents, they're sick"

"Oh that sucks..."

*"Yeah..."

-Out of nowhere, here comes the jealousy test again...

*"I heard you and your friend were fighting over me"

-She complimented my friend, (just like she complimented everyone) and he's a total AFC so he took it WAYYYY to serious...

"What? who told you this?"

*"My sources"

"Well, your sources are living a fairy tale"

*"Whats that suppose to mean? You don't like me?"

"I didn't say that, but we didn't fight over you"

*"So do you like me?"

"Uhhmmm... you are an attractice girl, it's just that..."

Long 3 second eerie silence

"You have a boyfriend, and it's weird"

*"What do you mean it's weird?

"You have a boyfriend and all..."

*"If I didn't have a boyfriend, would you like me?"

"It would be different"

*"Well, I gotta go so call me later on..."

"Later on?" - It was about 10 a clock so...

*"Like tomorrow or something"

I wasn't smooth or anything like that, and should've put some pressure on her... but whatever.

Question is... do I call her in few days and ask her on a get together? Get to know her a little bit more?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Walden

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Originally posted by Smoothaswetsoap
Question is... do I call her in few days and ask her on a get together? Get to know her a little bit more?
F*** no! she's an attention wh*re whose done nothing but sh*t test you. If you do anything at all you have to bust her for being a btich and freze her out for two weeks. No woman is going to swallow the semen of a man she doesn't respect.
 

Nocturnal

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You didn't screw up (at least with that conversation), but she's definitely not head over heels for you. In a nutshell, don't even bother with her. Like Walden said, she doesn't respect you, so that alone should tell you to cut her loose.

By the way, stop having conversations on the phone.
 

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if a girl gives you a **** test, just overdo your response. make sure it's dripping with sarcasm.

"so do you like me?"
"yeah. I can't sleep at night. sometimes I have to get up, and I just cry because I yearn for you so bad. I can't help but think about your slightly uneven haircut or your freakishly tiny hands..."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mr. Debonaire

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Originally posted by Porky
"yeah. I can't sleep at night. sometimes I have to get up, and I just cry because I yearn for you so bad. I can't help but think about your slightly uneven haircut or your freakishly tiny hands..."
hahaha thats the best thing i ever heard :D
 

UltimateScoundrel

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Her grandparents are fine.

She's not interested.

She just likes to see if she can have an affect on men. She uses them to boost her ego.

Obviously if her grandparents were really BOTH ill, fat chance, it would either be something serious enought to warrant hospitalization, or something minor. And if it's minor, I'd like to think that two grown adults can handle it.

You got played like a fiddle, and now she's just enjoying rejecting you over and over and watching you come back for another kick in the nuts.
 
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