"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How could one answer here?

sosumba

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Girls usually like to ask "what is your plan for the future?" in early stages of dating.
I dont think that the best way here is to tell all about my purpose, tell her about short term and long term goals.

Should one be honest or what is the strategy here? I am thinking that telling just a tiny bit if you see LTR potential and joke if ONS.
What would be your strategy?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'd surely joke about most things if it's a ONS, but if it's a potential LTR there's no point beating around the bush. In the case of a potential LTR I'll just briefly tell her what I have planned for myself and move on to something more engaging. Lying would be stupid, if she ends up as a LTR she will see through your BS sooner or later anyways. In the case you don't have a plan, you really should have some goals, not just to have something to say to women, but because a man without a plan is by definition aimless in life.

Basically, don't overthink it, be brief, follow up if she takes interest in any of it or simply move on to the next subject. If you have no plan, make one.
 

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Depends on the mood. If it’s a lite and playful mood use it as an opportunity to joke around.

If it’s a serious moment, tell her the plan. Hopefully you aren’t just waking up everyday with no agenda and can give a well thought out answer to this question. Right?
 

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An example would be what I do for a living which is trade futures contracts. For the most part, a vast majority of people have no idea what that is. If I talk about in any detail, most folks eyes will glaze over.

What I initially say is not that and that my life is focused on a complicated niche and the best way to relate to it is as a modern day treasure hunter - that I‘ve dedicated my life in penetrating life’s greatest mysteries and the pursuit of life’s priceless treasures that also embody the full spectrum of human emotions.

This convo then bridges into qualities that have emotional associations. For me it’s truth and clarity. I lead the convo into sussing her best qualities, how they make her feel, describe these feelings as sensations and where does she feel these in her body.

The above is generally in the frame of a guessing game. I’ll entertain a couple of wrong guesses and then lead the convo elsewhere.

The above has taken a lifetime to discover and refine and it started with these following questions:

Who am I?
Why am I here?
What difference do I intend to make?
How have I made the world a better place?
What is my greatest potential?
What will give me durable fulfillment?
 

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Just because a woman asks you a question doesnt mean that you have to answer it.

You can either play it off or you can answer. If choosing the latter, its best to be direct and honest. Either she will be on board or you can save yourself time and go find another chick fairly easy if you have high SMV.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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