sangheilios
Master Don Juan
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A couple days ago I was at the gym, had a really good lower body workout and was going through my stretching/yoga routine I do before heading out. I'm in the aerobics room, from which I can see out to the rest of the gym, and I noticed that this girl, who I had met at another gym about 2.5 years ago, was there. Upon seeing her it made me reflect upon the experience I had.
Back in the summer of 2018 I had approached her, we spoke for about 10 minutes and I let her go back to her workout. I had run into her a couple days later, she approaches me and then asks me out, so we exchanged numbers. The girl flaked on our date and ghosted me for about a week. Whenever I'd see her at the gym she'd approach me, flirt, etc. She had asked me out a couple more times, more or less repeating the same pattern. It got to the point where I was becoming so annoyed by it that I was considering switching gyms. However, instead of running away from a problem I basically confronted it head on and asked her what her problem was with me. She ended up yelling at me, walked off and finally stopped approaching me. However, a few months later she tried approaching me and I literally had to turn my body and walk away from her and go to the other side of the gym. From here she kept staring at me all the time, I avoided making any direct eye contact or acknowledging her existence but I noticed all of this peripherally, as well as have others I know there mention this to me as well.
I realize this is a more extreme case of attention whoring and that this is a woman that has issues but I wonder how common it is to run into women like this. I've had several other experiences with women that were similar to this one in particular, though I feel this case was further on the spectrum than the others. Also, what is a good way to deal with a woman like this should a man run into one? Is it best to just call it out right then and there and then proceed by totally ignoring?
Back in the summer of 2018 I had approached her, we spoke for about 10 minutes and I let her go back to her workout. I had run into her a couple days later, she approaches me and then asks me out, so we exchanged numbers. The girl flaked on our date and ghosted me for about a week. Whenever I'd see her at the gym she'd approach me, flirt, etc. She had asked me out a couple more times, more or less repeating the same pattern. It got to the point where I was becoming so annoyed by it that I was considering switching gyms. However, instead of running away from a problem I basically confronted it head on and asked her what her problem was with me. She ended up yelling at me, walked off and finally stopped approaching me. However, a few months later she tried approaching me and I literally had to turn my body and walk away from her and go to the other side of the gym. From here she kept staring at me all the time, I avoided making any direct eye contact or acknowledging her existence but I noticed all of this peripherally, as well as have others I know there mention this to me as well.
I realize this is a more extreme case of attention whoring and that this is a woman that has issues but I wonder how common it is to run into women like this. I've had several other experiences with women that were similar to this one in particular, though I feel this case was further on the spectrum than the others. Also, what is a good way to deal with a woman like this should a man run into one? Is it best to just call it out right then and there and then proceed by totally ignoring?
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