"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How come once you fvck a girl they suddenly chase hard?

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dude99

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Inb4 sex was great. Ive noticed that whether the sex was bad, mediocre or good the girl will suddenly reach out more. On one hard I figured its because she might want a relationship because deep down she knows the higher her count the lower her value.

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It releases Oxytocin in the brain. The chemical that triggers love. The chemical that triggers addiction. Fack them good and it releases the oxytocin and you are in fact getting her addicted to the idea of you.
 
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Inb4 sex was great. Ive noticed that whether the sex was bad, mediocre or good the girl will suddenly reach out more. On one hard I figured its because she might want a relationship because deep down she knows the higher her count the lower her value.

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Generally but not always, women wont **** a guy unless they like him a certain amount or more. Although "liking" can change in both directions for a woman.

In a sense, if she let you inside her she must think your worth it even if you're a total **** heel. It's about her perception of her value relative to yours rather than any sort of objective value . If you're interested spend some time googling some dudes that women find attractive that you think are losers. you'll soon realize female attractiveness is about as based on reality as affirmative action is about hiring the best candidate.

One of my buddies who is a bartender seems like a takes a new girl home almost every night lol. Dude has nothing going on for him in terms of long term life goals but doesnt seem to stop him from cleaning up.
 

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Only someone inexperienced could think this. These females are smashing homie through homie not catching feelings. Fewer women are catching (temporary) feelings and just until the next guy comes around.
I have to agree . Many women usually when they break up from someone jump from D to D almost every day and got no feelings involved. Meanwhile my personal experience has show something different (maybe cause I’m good looking or i know how tk fck or that i got money , i think the 3rd lol) that when i fck them they start chasing me all the time .

That’s what also maybe differentiate a slut from a normal woman . A slut would do it without feelings and a normal woman would do it with feelings involved . Still that’s not absolute cause a slut can be banged by you and get feelings involved so it doesn’t mean there are no combinations . It’s a complicated world.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It releases Oxytocin in the brain. The chemical that triggers love. The chemical that triggers addiction. Fack them good and it releases the oxytocin and you are in fact getting her addicted to the idea of you.
This. I was going to post this until @dude99 did.

Oxytocin is a powerful bonding chemical/hormone more pronounced in women than men. It's released for them during sex, a huge gush during her orgasm, moderate amounts during kissing, and small amounts even in hugging.

Women are also perpetually influenced by oxytocin when they have a young child. This is why suddently the man/husband is practically banished emotionally after childbirth. All the oxytocin goes to the kid and the man is largely seen as "in the way." One reason for a big spike in divorce, sadly, after couples have a kid.
 

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Inb4 sex was great. Ive noticed that whether the sex was bad, mediocre or good the girl will suddenly reach out more. On one hard I figured its because she might want a relationship because deep down she knows the higher her count the lower her value.

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that happens mainly only after first fugg
and means
shes scared of being used and dumped cus that would mean shes one-night-*****
 

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This really shouldn't be all that complicated nor take 2 pages to explain.

Before the advent of the pill and other contraceptives, when a woman has sex with a man it is very probable for her to end up getting pregnant. Subconsciously she will want to cling to the man she spread her legs for and pursue him, as this is her biological programming ensuring that she keeps the child's father around, which increases chances of survival.

Now, obviously we have birth control and the child most likely will be able to survive into adulthood without a father but all of this is just something that is ingrained on an instinctual level.

As others have mentioned, sex is a far more emotional investment for women compared to men, where as for us it is mostly physical and nothing more. I would argue that if a woman has a very detached attitude towards sex and is extremely casual about it I would say that is a huge red flag in regards to her character. I've know of a few women who were like this and the one trend I recall was that they came from broken families and had very dysfunctional childhoods. More extreme cases of this would be women who are strippers, pornstars, prostitutes, etc.....it's simply not natural for women to put themselves into roles like this, thus the extremely high rates of substance abuse, suicide, etc.
 

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I was a rebound for the first girl I sexed, pretty sure. She was gone to another guy without telling me in a couple days, in the meantime I was inexperienced and pestered her for more sex after the first time. If I hadn't, I probably wouldn't have romped a second afternoon with her.

She spoke fondly of her parents, who were still together.
 
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