"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How come I don't detect interest from women?

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sometimes (most of the time? all the time?) when I talk to a girl, I don't detect any interest.

If I were a girl and there was a guy I liked, I would get self conscious around him. I don't detect any level of self-consciousness from girls that I talk to. No signs of being nervous.

I would also expect her to ask ME some questions. This almost never happens (maybe happened once):
me: "What do you do?" girl: "I am a nurse. What do YOU do?"
I always intentionally stay quiet to give her an opportunity to ask a question. but she doesn't

I dont know if there is no interest there or I am just not detecting it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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corrector

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sometimes (most of the time? all the time?) when I talk to a girl, I don't detect any interest.

If I were a girl and there was a guy I liked, I would get self conscious around him. I don't detect any level of self-consciousness from girls that I talk to. No signs of being nervous.

I would also expect her to ask ME some questions. This almost never happens (maybe happened once):
me: "What do you do?" girl: "I am a nurse. What do YOU do?"
I always intentionally stay quiet to give her an opportunity to ask a question. but she doesn't

I dont know if there is no interest there or I am just not detecting it.
Are you an incel?
 

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Given the abundance of guys approaching women compared to the opposite I'd say women are more used to talking to guys than the other way around. From that we can deduce that being nervous around the opposite sex is a more common response from men. So your logic that "women should be nervous if they're attracted" isn't sound. You're better off looking at proximity, how physically close they are to you, which direction they're facing and which direction they're moving (away or towards you).

Some women with a few select personalities may exhibit nervousness if they find you very attractive, but I wouldn't count on this attribute as a reliable IOI.
 

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Mmm id look at body language 1st dont even need to talk to them to see interest.

Check youtube lots of video on this.

Id also recommend Joe Navarro books
 

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Women get nervous around crackheads & weirdos

You don't have to make them feel like this

If you're a centred confident guy this will actually make women feel SAFE & happy
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Learn the difference between warm & cold approaches.

It sounds like you're cold approaching women without an invitation.
Believe it or not, that's an uphill battle. She won't be receptive to you because you're trying to win her over. It puts her on a pedestal.

Warm approaching is when she's sending positive signals to you, inviting you to talk to her. These type of women are far more receptive to your advances.
 

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You need to BE interesting to lure them. You do that by looking great, being proficient in your job, earning good money and not giving them interest for free. Tbh not giving a phuck about them.

Being aloof and self-concentrated, obsessed by your own success-story, egoistical is the way to
Like BigDave17 has all these attributes.
 
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