Master Don Juan
- Apr 21, 2018
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- Bridgeport, CT
I disagree. One is a willing choice, one, in many cases isn't. Sweetie, as I've posted here about my past, I've been on my own since I was 16, and I'm 38 now, so my parents and raising me really doesn't go together. My parents.. geez.. Not people to follow, an sacrifices.. LOL. That's a good one. This would be reversed. So, my parents didn't raise or sacrifice for me. I raised myself. 17 went into the military, and was on my own from there. Parents and family did nothing. In fact, I had to bail their a-s-s out when they came to me hat in hand. Luckily, I do not hold grudges and assisted. I am nothing like them and I am proud to say that. You shouldn't assume everyone had a rosy childhood.Being a mother is sacrificial. It is also a choice. Going into the military is sacrificial as well. Also (in US) a choice. Different risk sets. Both potentially life risk. Mortality at childbirth remains a real issue in poor countries. Of course lots of things carry greater risk in poor countries. It is what it is.
Pregnancy and childbirth is potentially life threatening to both mother and child even in the US. I nearly lost myself and my son at birth. I was lucky and we were both fine but my son was in NICU for a week.
I deeply respect military men but this idea that parenting (and the physical risks of pregnancy and childbirth) are somehow not worthy of gratitude is rather unfortunate. Without a mother and the care she provides, none of us exist. Without those who sacrifice for our freedom...our freedoms would not exist.
It is about values. You do not value the same things I do. Perhaps you are not a parent, and do not choose to be one. That’s fine. If you ever become a parent you and the child’s mother will find it is indeed a sacrificial choice.
Sacrifices of time, priorities and finances for starters. Ask your parents if they had to make sacrifices to have you and raise you. I’m sure they did.
In general, females feel childbirth and being a mother is so amazing is unreal. It's not a miracle. It's not a gift from God. It's nature. Billions of animals including humans, do it every year. As a mother, I am sure you know how it happens. I deliver babies all the time, so perhaps that makes me a bit jaded, but it's no miracle. Well, the miracle is actually from the docs, RN's and PAs who have to deliver a baby who has not turned or has the umbilical cord wrapped around their neck, or we find out the mother is hooked on drugs, so now the baby is. So, in that case, yes, it's a miracle that the medical professionals know how to help and address the situation. Otherwise, the fact of the matter is sperm comes out of the penis and enters the vagina. If an egg is in the right place at the right time and a spermatozoa is able to penetrate the egg; then you have a chance to become pregnant.
@BeExcellent, I am not trying to be a d ick BTW, just breaking it down how I see it. I am not saying I am right or wrong, just how I process it. But there is a huge difference in being a mother/father and a mom/dad. Congrats you are a mom to three adults (by now). I am sure, since you seem pretty level headed they are progressing fine in life. However, just because you may be a good mom, doesn't mean others are.