quickerblade
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any ideas guys, besides magic tricks
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How can we demonstrate higher value???
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
quickerblade
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what???
imho, the BEST way to demonstrate higher value is to not actively strive to demonstrate higher value.
Or in PUA talk, DLV- demonstrate LOWER value.
The simple act of TRYING to be higher value is a sign of insecurity and neediness. Instead, just be natural and cool with things. Mention the little love handle you've acquired recently. Tease yourself (but don't overdo this).
Only the most confident, HIGHEST VALUE guys do this.
p.s. post in the correct forum next time.
Or in PUA talk, DLV- demonstrate LOWER value.
The simple act of TRYING to be higher value is a sign of insecurity and neediness. Instead, just be natural and cool with things. Mention the little love handle you've acquired recently. Tease yourself (but don't overdo this).
Only the most confident, HIGHEST VALUE guys do this.
p.s. post in the correct forum next time.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I've found when I just imerse myself in my own reality and only occasionaly look around to see whats going on people approach me more often. In other words I act relaxed, laid back, and don't demonstarte that I'm shy or nervous about anything. I'm not drawing attention to myself and I don't act too excited when anyone talks to me.
To add to what your looking for, having people approach me (male or female) seems to increase my value and when I finally do decide to go up to someone of the female persuasion it seems to make them feel special that they've done just enough to attract my attention. Let me add though that I always allow myself to remain neutral and don't telegraph intrest. This way I get to keep the sense of mystery that most women find intriguing.
I've also heard that working your way down the food chain is a another way to demonstrate a higher value. What this consist of is talking to the hottest girl, then the second hottest girl, then the third, and so on. The theory is that when women see you talking with someone that they percieve to be more attractive then them it enhances your value in their eyes. However one of the things that I am constently being told is to make sure that your approach is congruent to your personality and honestly, I base my approach on being low key guy (mysterious not shy. The way I like to describe it is the one thats able to slip under the radar) so I feel that this approach doesn't play to my strengths. Nevertheless your more than welcome to try it out.
To add to what your looking for, having people approach me (male or female) seems to increase my value and when I finally do decide to go up to someone of the female persuasion it seems to make them feel special that they've done just enough to attract my attention. Let me add though that I always allow myself to remain neutral and don't telegraph intrest. This way I get to keep the sense of mystery that most women find intriguing.
I've also heard that working your way down the food chain is a another way to demonstrate a higher value. What this consist of is talking to the hottest girl, then the second hottest girl, then the third, and so on. The theory is that when women see you talking with someone that they percieve to be more attractive then them it enhances your value in their eyes. However one of the things that I am constently being told is to make sure that your approach is congruent to your personality and honestly, I base my approach on being low key guy (mysterious not shy. The way I like to describe it is the one thats able to slip under the radar) so I feel that this approach doesn't play to my strengths. Nevertheless your more than welcome to try it out.