quickerblade
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any ideas guys, besides magic tricks
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How can we demonstrate higher value???
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
quickerblade
Don Juan
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what???
imho, the BEST way to demonstrate higher value is to not actively strive to demonstrate higher value.
Or in PUA talk, DLV- demonstrate LOWER value.
The simple act of TRYING to be higher value is a sign of insecurity and neediness. Instead, just be natural and cool with things. Mention the little love handle you've acquired recently. Tease yourself (but don't overdo this).
Only the most confident, HIGHEST VALUE guys do this.
p.s. post in the correct forum next time.
Or in PUA talk, DLV- demonstrate LOWER value.
The simple act of TRYING to be higher value is a sign of insecurity and neediness. Instead, just be natural and cool with things. Mention the little love handle you've acquired recently. Tease yourself (but don't overdo this).
Only the most confident, HIGHEST VALUE guys do this.
p.s. post in the correct forum next time.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I've found when I just imerse myself in my own reality and only occasionaly look around to see whats going on people approach me more often. In other words I act relaxed, laid back, and don't demonstarte that I'm shy or nervous about anything. I'm not drawing attention to myself and I don't act too excited when anyone talks to me.
To add to what your looking for, having people approach me (male or female) seems to increase my value and when I finally do decide to go up to someone of the female persuasion it seems to make them feel special that they've done just enough to attract my attention. Let me add though that I always allow myself to remain neutral and don't telegraph intrest. This way I get to keep the sense of mystery that most women find intriguing.
I've also heard that working your way down the food chain is a another way to demonstrate a higher value. What this consist of is talking to the hottest girl, then the second hottest girl, then the third, and so on. The theory is that when women see you talking with someone that they percieve to be more attractive then them it enhances your value in their eyes. However one of the things that I am constently being told is to make sure that your approach is congruent to your personality and honestly, I base my approach on being low key guy (mysterious not shy. The way I like to describe it is the one thats able to slip under the radar) so I feel that this approach doesn't play to my strengths. Nevertheless your more than welcome to try it out.
To add to what your looking for, having people approach me (male or female) seems to increase my value and when I finally do decide to go up to someone of the female persuasion it seems to make them feel special that they've done just enough to attract my attention. Let me add though that I always allow myself to remain neutral and don't telegraph intrest. This way I get to keep the sense of mystery that most women find intriguing.
I've also heard that working your way down the food chain is a another way to demonstrate a higher value. What this consist of is talking to the hottest girl, then the second hottest girl, then the third, and so on. The theory is that when women see you talking with someone that they percieve to be more attractive then them it enhances your value in their eyes. However one of the things that I am constently being told is to make sure that your approach is congruent to your personality and honestly, I base my approach on being low key guy (mysterious not shy. The way I like to describe it is the one thats able to slip under the radar) so I feel that this approach doesn't play to my strengths. Nevertheless your more than welcome to try it out.