"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How can one postpone a date without communicating lack of interest?

Tolstoi

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Dear All,

I met through FaceBook a woman from my hometown that I knew in my youth. We both are now living in the same town.

After some sporadic exchange of messages on FaceBook for two weeks or so, I invited her for a walking and she accepted it.

I told her that I would call her today for arranging our joint walking. However, I am not feeling in a mood of going for the walking in this weekend. I would rather prefer the next weekend.

So, my question is: How can I postpone the date without communicating lack of interest?

Grateful for your ideas in advance!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alvafe

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Dear All,

I met through FaceBook a woman from my hometown that I knew in my youth. We both are now living in the same town.

After some sporadic exchange of messages on FaceBook for two weeks or so, I invited her for a walking and she accepted it.

I told her that I would call her today for arranging our joint walking. However, I am not feeling in a mood of going for the walking in this weekend. I would rather prefer the next weekend.

So, my question is: How can I postpone the date without communicating lack of interest?

Grateful for your ideas in advance!
suck it up and still go, stop being lazy, keep your word on thing you said, you are a men, woman who have issues of keeping her word
 

Blacksheep

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Dear All,

I met through FaceBook a woman from my hometown that I knew in my youth. We both are now living in the same town.

After some sporadic exchange of messages on FaceBook for two weeks or so, I invited her for a walking and she accepted it.

I told her that I would call her today for arranging our joint walking. However, I am not feeling in a mood of going for the walking in this weekend. I would rather prefer the next weekend.

So, my question is: How can I postpone the date without communicating lack of interest?

Grateful for your ideas in advance!
If you really don't wanna go, just say the truth.

"I don't wanna meet today, not in the mood... feeling (something). Can we schedule for next week?"

It doesn't care if she will be angry or not... People judge us all the time. Do whatever you want. Say no when you want... That situation is not a big deal.

Doing something only to please one's expectations is the road for frustration. Trust me, I was the master on that and I took a long time and pain to get rid of that.
 

ubercat

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It's not the girl that's the problem with this. It's what you're communicating to yourself that is the problem. And when you're home you won't enjoy your time you'll be thinking shoulda coulda woulda.

Sorry mate I'm certainly not perfect. We all have our weak days. But it's the tough love here that makes us more useful than love shack.
 

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Dear All,

I met through FaceBook a woman from my hometown that I knew in my youth. We both are now living in the same town.

After some sporadic exchange of messages on FaceBook for two weeks or so, I invited her for a walking and she accepted it.

I told her that I would call her today for arranging our joint walking. However, I am not feeling in a mood of going for the walking in this weekend. I would rather prefer the next weekend.

So, my question is: How can I postpone the date without communicating lack of interest?

Grateful for your ideas in advance!
Don't be a schmuck. You made the date, stick to it. Who knows, you may get your d!ick wet if you don't f uck it up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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