(thank you for the kind words , gentlemen. You dont know how badly I want to help you guys out there. I really do. I want to do everything within my power to open up your hearts and minds,and help you accept yourself and empower yourselves for greatness, success, and lasting fulfillment
Understand deep wuithin yourself, that you must find happiness. Be comfortable with yourself. Maintain Peace of Mind. Be comfortable LIVING ALONE. And develop the Mind of a Warrior. For the true Greatness of a WARRIOR , is NOT technical Fighting SKILL....it is calm, disciplined, and powerful Inner Mind. The "immoveable Mind.'
Bushido-The Way of the Warrior. In this, you will find peace, strength, confidence, and resources to face the daily batte of life. Prepare for combat. Peacefully. Intelligently. Righteously.)
Generally speaking, whenever we worry or are anxious about how we appear, and how we are being perceived by others, this means that we still dont feel like we're good enough.
Yuo still think you can CONTROL what others THINK about you....since you beleive you have CONTROL ove rother's thoughts and actions, you become extremely SELF AWARE to the point of irrationality in trying to control every aspect you show to the world.
But see. you HAVE NO CONTROL over others.
SO thinking about how others perceive you to the point where it is creating anxiety and distress is IRRATIONAL.
AN IRRATINAL FEAR is controlling you.
(See, this stuff gets deep...
This is what I call 'pullng weeds.")
Somewhere along the way, while you were growing up , you faced an event that formed your psyche. Your BASIS for your SELF IMAGE.
Most of the time, Psycho Analysis and Hypnotherapy try to get in there, and find out WHAT happend, and then they work on REWIRING your mind
That way you can start to overwrite the previous negative beliefs.
When you worry on how you are being perceived you are assuming that other people have the RIGHT to judge you.
they don't.
They can't.
And they will never HAVE nor EARN the RIGHT to do so.
Guys, please, listen to me...
NO ONE can truly , genuinely "JUDGE" you.
They cannot.
They can make assumptions.
They can make observations.
They can believe they can make a CONCLUSION about you.
But that is all bullsh*t!
They are NO ONE to judge you or condemn you.
Why?
Think about it for a second.
Why would anyone think you are LESSER than they are.
Seriously.
And if they DO think they have some GOd given right, knwing what you know now...dont you think theyre being foolish???
We go back again...
WHERE did this insecurity start???!!
What was the EVENT or the EVENTS that triggered the BELEIFS that made you sooo Self Conscious, that you are now painfully aware and micromanaging EVERY little detail about yourself because you WORRY that people will perceive you in some negative light.
You can feel insecure about your looks.
About how much you earn
if you have a job or not
maybe you feel your job is not prestigious enough or glamorous enough
maybe you dont have a 'nice' car?
maybe your a virgin
maybe you never had a girlfriend
never kissed a girl
WHATEVER!
The poin tis this...
YOU MADE up "RULES" on HOW you are to be JUDGED.
YOU.
You did.
Thisiusually means that YOU sometmies judge others by things they have or what they look like.
Yes, you sometimes do. Be honest with yourself.
Sometimes you may look at a guy and maybe hes chubby or doesnt have a nice car, you may think hes beneath you.
Thus, you have a certain frame of reference that makes you realize :
"OMG! I dont have nice car or a nice job either!! Fvck!! Im a loser too!! No one will ever want to be with me becaseu I dont have a nuice care or whatever!"
You grew up having a certain CRITERIA that you feel many people MUST ADHERE to or MEET, in order for them to have VALUE and/or be ACCEPTABLE to YOU.
Fvcked up , isnt it?
Yeah, you made this up for yourself.
Now, lets be honest..
many people take it upon themselves to judge others badsed on accomplishments or possessions or looks NOT CHARACTER.
Do you see that as an ethical, COMPASSIONATE, and considerate point of view?
Deep down, I know you do not.
I know that deep down youagree that it is fvcked up for people to thik youre not worthy of their attention or whatever becasue you dont drive a certain car, or maybe you never had a GF or whatever experience...
These are superficial snap judgements some closeminded people make.
You dont want to be that kind of person.
So what is the deal here?
You need to RECOGNIZE yuor VALUE.
You need to Recognize your SELF WORTH.
You MUST DEVELOP an IMAGE of yourself BEING a person whom is WORTH it.
How do you do that?
Well, you need to stop judging people.
You need to develp a more compassionate heart.
You need to look for the goodness and compassion in people's heasrts, and you need to do the same for them.
"Seek first to understand, then..to be understood."
Stephen Covey
You need to let go of the notion that youn eed to have something superficial on order to HAVE WORTH and VALUE.
You need to look at yourself and OBSERVE yourSELF expereinceing high SELF ESTEEM
And how do you start down the road to doing that?
Do what you love.
Find your passions.
Identify them
Recognize them
And pursue them.
Dream big.
And PURSUE your DREAMS!
Prepare your Mission Statement.
Develp your Internal Compass indoing so, and OBSERVING yourself.
Pursue [/I]HIGH CHARACTER while pursuing your dreams, and achieving your goals.
Recognize that you lack direction.
make peace with it.
And then go about FINDING your DIRECTION.
This comes form deciding just what is your Mission in life.
Because in there you will find passion, and you will do what you love, and you will build self esteem, and increase your confidence...
..and as yuo do these things your sense of Identity and sens of SELF grows stronger..
...and as they grow stronger, you recognize your WORTH and VALUE, and you begin to to deeply RESPECT your WORTH and VALUE, and the REOSURCEs you HAVE and are BUILDING..
..and as these conmtiuneu to grow, you begin to have even more understanding, patience, consideration, and compassion for others.
And as you begin to experience these things you will let go of the notion that people can 'hurt' you.
They cannot take anything from you.
You are in control of your Resources.
And you paradigm shifts, becasue now you have Abundance.
You HAVE Reosurces.
Thus, you are feeling WELL BEING!!!!!
You no longer feel UNWORTHY.
You no longer feel INFERIOR.
You no longer feel deep INSECURITY.
You build FAITH.
Confidence.
And you begin to see people as just .....people.
With their OWN difficulties, challenges, and yes...past trauma they are dealing with too.
They are just like you.
And you now look at them differenlty..
through stronger, but more COMPASSIONATE eyes.
And you let go of judging them.....