"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How can I date hot personal trainer at my gym?

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There's this hot personal trainer at my gym. I'm guessing she's about my age, but maybe a bit older. I'm 22, she may be 23 or 24. Now, it's tricky business trying to date someone in her position because I go to the gym about 4x per week and I probably see her there about 3 times. Also, usually when I see her, she is busy giving personal training sessions for something like $35/hr so I can't interrupt her while she's with clients.

Since I go to the gym a lot, she has noticed me and I know she recognizes me because she has said "hello" before when I passed by her while she was on a break or something. I am very proud of my body and I believe that anybody there would see me as a hard-working lifter. I use a notebook and I am chiseled so people definitely take me seriously and I wouldn't be seen as some joke trying to get a girl at the gym. The only thing I'd be a bit concerned about is that I am kinda pale and she's very tan, but that's not likely to change quickly w/o some major sunburn so I'm not worried about that.

Anybody have any ideas on how I can try to pull this off? I'm actually thinking about becoming a personal trainer so perhaps I could ask her something about that if I catch her on a break. It's a tough situation since I need to save face with whatever I decide to do.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You don't need to save face for anybody. No one cares if you ask this girl out.

When you've passed by her while she was on a break and said "hello" to you, this was your chance to chat her up and ask for her number.

Next chance you get just think about your nike shoes and just do it! Its just that simple.
 

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Don't read to much into the hello - because that's just someone being friendly.

I'd recomend you hit up a conversation with her - ask her a question about a workout or some such sh#t.
 

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I can already tell by your mindset that your not confident in yourself. Yeah you've got this great body (congrats I know how much hard work & dedication that takes), but your confidence level is not there. Here's what you do:

-Watch how she interacts with others. It will be REALLY HARD to tell what kinda girl she is because she's at work. She get's paid to be friendly and nice. If you constantly recieve EC from her, smile back at her and # close her. If she accepts then you know your in, otherwise I'd quit thinking of strategies for asking out a girl from your gym. You don't want to have to switch gyms if it doesn't work do you??

In my honest opinion, I wouldn't ask out a girl from the gym unless it was quiet obivious that her interest level was there. Because I wouldn't want to go through the hassle of switching gyms.




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Pimp-sicle,

I don't see why you think confidence is an issue here. I am confident in myself, but I am being cautious because the risks here are rather large. If you look at the situation, there are very few opportunities where she's off the clock and I can talk to her so there's not much to gauge her interest level. Add to that the fact that this is a place I go to 4x per week and I see her quite often. So, of course I sorta know others on the staff, and, although she doesn't seem like a gossiper, who am I to know if I get some type of reputation there if I don't play this right.

I'll do the EC thing and chat her up if she's ever not busy....hope it works out.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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