How can I be a DJ when I can't even make friends?

[Dapper Swindler]

Among other things, DJs are charismatic, confident, and friendly. They can win over crowds of not just women, but men too. But I'm wondering if not having the basic social skills to make friends is making my DJ progress fruitless. All my life, I've never had a lot of friends. I'm shy and introverted. I've probably dated more women than I've had male friends, and I haven't dated much. I can see two causes for this:

* I'm shy and socially retarded. I don't know what to say to people and how to say it with confidence. I don't know how to build relationships with people.
* Deep down I really don't care to make friends. I don't really care about hanging out with some dude. If there's no romance or sex, what's the point? If they aren't going to sarge with me or invite me to places where I could meet women or be social proof, then what's the point? If they don't have similar interests as I do then what's the point? I have other things to do. Maybe I just don't like people that much.



So I have two questions.

Is being a DJ an extension of being a friendly, social person? Is it a prerequisite? Do I need it for social proof? Or can I just skip that and concentrate only on women?

Second question, what could be my problem with making friends? Has anyone else had this problem and figured out what the cause was?

 

[Roly]

Start with the Basics

First off man, I suggest getting that book - " How to win friends and influence people". Just for the basics. I suggest you start making friends that has the same interest and hobbies as you, unless you have weird ass hobbies and interest, there not so hard to find.

If you have poor social skills, I would not concentrate too much about making " friends". I suggest you get yourself a - JOB where it forces to you to be more social and outgoing. Use your imagination.

Learn to open yourself up to people, and start connecting with them. An important trait to have in life.

 

[Dapper Swindler]

I'll check out your suggestions. But the problem is that I don't know if it's worth it. Not only do I have a problem making friends, I don't really have any incentive to. With DJing, there is a reason to do it. How can I be motivated to fight against a problem if there is no reason to.

So any help with the first question: is being an outgoing, friendly person a prerequisite for DJing?

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Originally posted by Dapper Swindler
I'll check out your suggestions. But the problem is that I don't know if it's worth it. Not only do I have a problem making friends, I don't really have any incentive to. With DJing, there is a reason to do it. How can I be motivated to fight against a problem if there is no reason to.

So any help with the first question: is being an outgoing, friendly person a prerequisite for DJing?

No it's not, but it's a prequisite for a healthy emotional person and it will increase the odds of you finding the person you want to spend time with.

For the original poster:

If you dunno how to socialize or make GOOD MALE friends - your dating life may reflect that