"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

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Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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thetachisle said:
Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.
Stop caring.
Embrace your primitive nature, stop acting like it is a force that is moving against you. Once you understand and harness that flame without it controlling you or you pouring water over it, that, is when you become don juan.
 

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By having other women that are interested in you. If she's your only option that you are toast.
 

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If you are not 110% willing to let her go then don't do it because you aren't ready. However, take a good hard look at the fact that she disrespects you, says hurtful things to you, and withholds things from you. All bright red flags, broski. Not good. Your loosing her would be an upgrade.

No reason why you should sit there and take that. There are girls out there that will be into you if you choose a better deal.

Choose that better deal!
 

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thetachisle said:
Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me.
You still want to be with a girl who doesn't listen to you, puts you down, and is secretive? Wow bro the sex must be awesome.

But I used to think the same way....girl put me down, put me down, put me down, but she was 9/10 and would have sex with me so I took the abuse. Now I know how stupid it was and girls like that are just good for having sex with. Wanting something more from them will drive you up the wall.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Trump said:
You still want to be with a girl who doesn't listen to you, puts you down, and is secretive? Wow bro the sex must be awesome.

But I used to think the same way....girl put me down, put me down, put me down, but she was 9/10 and would have sex with me so I took the abuse. Now I know how stupid it was and girls like that are just good for having sex with. Wanting something more from them will drive you up the wall.
Yes, the sex is great, shes not secretive or doesn't listen. She actually only puts me down when she is hormonal or stressed out. But, sometimes she won't let me have sex and sometimes she walks away from me when I am trying to have sex with her and she doesn't want it at the time. What should I do in this instance?
 

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My ex did that once so I just finished off myself right in front of her.
 
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