"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

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Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thetachisle said:
Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.
Stop caring.
Embrace your primitive nature, stop acting like it is a force that is moving against you. Once you understand and harness that flame without it controlling you or you pouring water over it, that, is when you become don juan.
 

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By having other women that are interested in you. If she's your only option that you are toast.
 

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If you are not 110% willing to let her go then don't do it because you aren't ready. However, take a good hard look at the fact that she disrespects you, says hurtful things to you, and withholds things from you. All bright red flags, broski. Not good. Your loosing her would be an upgrade.

No reason why you should sit there and take that. There are girls out there that will be into you if you choose a better deal.

Choose that better deal!
 

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thetachisle said:
Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me.
You still want to be with a girl who doesn't listen to you, puts you down, and is secretive? Wow bro the sex must be awesome.

But I used to think the same way....girl put me down, put me down, put me down, but she was 9/10 and would have sex with me so I took the abuse. Now I know how stupid it was and girls like that are just good for having sex with. Wanting something more from them will drive you up the wall.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Trump said:
You still want to be with a girl who doesn't listen to you, puts you down, and is secretive? Wow bro the sex must be awesome.

But I used to think the same way....girl put me down, put me down, put me down, but she was 9/10 and would have sex with me so I took the abuse. Now I know how stupid it was and girls like that are just good for having sex with. Wanting something more from them will drive you up the wall.
Yes, the sex is great, shes not secretive or doesn't listen. She actually only puts me down when she is hormonal or stressed out. But, sometimes she won't let me have sex and sometimes she walks away from me when I am trying to have sex with her and she doesn't want it at the time. What should I do in this instance?
 

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My ex did that once so I just finished off myself right in front of her.
 
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