"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

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Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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thetachisle said:
Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.
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Stop caring.
Embrace your primitive nature, stop acting like it is a force that is moving against you. Once you understand and harness that flame without it controlling you or you pouring water over it, that, is when you become don juan.
 
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By having other women that are interested in you. If she's your only option that you are toast.
 
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If you are not 110% willing to let her go then don't do it because you aren't ready. However, take a good hard look at the fact that she disrespects you, says hurtful things to you, and withholds things from you. All bright red flags, broski. Not good. Your loosing her would be an upgrade.

No reason why you should sit there and take that. There are girls out there that will be into you if you choose a better deal.

Choose that better deal!
 
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thetachisle said:
Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me.
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You still want to be with a girl who doesn't listen to you, puts you down, and is secretive? Wow bro the sex must be awesome.

But I used to think the same way....girl put me down, put me down, put me down, but she was 9/10 and would have sex with me so I took the abuse. Now I know how stupid it was and girls like that are just good for having sex with. Wanting something more from them will drive you up the wall.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Trump said:
You still want to be with a girl who doesn't listen to you, puts you down, and is secretive? Wow bro the sex must be awesome.

But I used to think the same way....girl put me down, put me down, put me down, but she was 9/10 and would have sex with me so I took the abuse. Now I know how stupid it was and girls like that are just good for having sex with. Wanting something more from them will drive you up the wall.
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Yes, the sex is great, shes not secretive or doesn't listen. She actually only puts me down when she is hormonal or stressed out. But, sometimes she won't let me have sex and sometimes she walks away from me when I am trying to have sex with her and she doesn't want it at the time. What should I do in this instance?
 
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My ex did that once so I just finished off myself right in front of her.
 
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