"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How can I act like i'm not afraid to lose her, without losing her?

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Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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thetachisle said:
Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me. What are some plans of action or words I can use to be willing to walk at any moment? But, remember I am only doing this if she is treating me in a way I don't want to be treated.
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Stop caring.
Embrace your primitive nature, stop acting like it is a force that is moving against you. Once you understand and harness that flame without it controlling you or you pouring water over it, that, is when you become don juan.
 
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By having other women that are interested in you. If she's your only option that you are toast.
 
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If you are not 110% willing to let her go then don't do it because you aren't ready. However, take a good hard look at the fact that she disrespects you, says hurtful things to you, and withholds things from you. All bright red flags, broski. Not good. Your loosing her would be an upgrade.

No reason why you should sit there and take that. There are girls out there that will be into you if you choose a better deal.

Choose that better deal!
 
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thetachisle said:
Basically, I need to pretend like I don't need her, but in all actuality I still want her to be with me. So in turn this makes her afraid of losing me. I want to give her the impression that I dont care for her, on the days she has an emotional outburst and says hurtful things to me, doesn't listen to what I say, or withholds anything from me.
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You still want to be with a girl who doesn't listen to you, puts you down, and is secretive? Wow bro the sex must be awesome.

But I used to think the same way....girl put me down, put me down, put me down, but she was 9/10 and would have sex with me so I took the abuse. Now I know how stupid it was and girls like that are just good for having sex with. Wanting something more from them will drive you up the wall.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Trump said:
You still want to be with a girl who doesn't listen to you, puts you down, and is secretive? Wow bro the sex must be awesome.

But I used to think the same way....girl put me down, put me down, put me down, but she was 9/10 and would have sex with me so I took the abuse. Now I know how stupid it was and girls like that are just good for having sex with. Wanting something more from them will drive you up the wall.
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Yes, the sex is great, shes not secretive or doesn't listen. She actually only puts me down when she is hormonal or stressed out. But, sometimes she won't let me have sex and sometimes she walks away from me when I am trying to have sex with her and she doesn't want it at the time. What should I do in this instance?
 
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My ex did that once so I just finished off myself right in front of her.
 
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