You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
sounds like body dysmorphic disorder.beastmaster79 said:yea except in the past i have gained a ****load of muscle and it never seems like enough becuase its hard to notice your progress. like my friend who went from 150 to 240 in a few years and he still thinks he's tiny.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
From 150 to 240? Well, either he used steroids, and his nuts atrophied to the size of raisins... or he gained 90lbs of fat and his penis looks tiny next to his humongous belly.beastmaster79 said:yea except in the past i have gained a ****load of muscle and it never seems like enough becuase its hard to notice your progress. like my friend who went from 150 to 240 in a few years and he still thinks he's tiny.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
wear something warm when you finish the workout.. you immune system is actually at its weaker points straight afterwards.SinJester said:At the moment I would be happy gaining a few pounds. I would be even happier being able to lift without getting sick.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You see I would be inclined to agree. But the problem must be getting worse. I'm 5 9" ish and was mid 150's for my last year of school yet most people were taller and at least a stone lighter. I suppose people will put weight on from 16-18 though. And I didn't REALLY look skinny, although my frame probably just wasn't quite as large, I know the ribcage is one of the last things to fully develop as well as shoulder width which would give the illusion of someone being heavier if they had more weight on a not fully developed skeloton.Fred Da Head said:Anyone at 5'9 and 160 looks skinny at best. Sure, that's more or less what is considered "fine," but it's still skinny... stupid society making it ok for women to be fat and for guys to be skinnier than their girlfriends.
That can be a very fit thin, not necessarily skinny. Being in the 5'7-5'9 range and being under 145 is what I'd called actually "skinny". The only measure I have is seeing fighters weights/heights in the UFC, but there are some really git guys in the 160 range, guys with bodies many girls would find more attractive than bodybuilders. Sure it's about as thin as any guy should ever want to be, but calling it the equivalent of a fat chick is retarded, as is saying it's "new" for guys to be skinny.Fred Da Head said:Anyone at 5'9 and 160 looks skinny at best. Sure, that's more or less what is considered "fine," but it's still skinny... stupid society making it ok for women to be fat and for guys to be skinnier than their girlfriends.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.