For the most part the fact that I'm terrible with women doesn't bother me too much. However I still feel that I should be dating women, but have no idea where to start. You can check out any of the threads I've made about various women. And the common thing is that they either aren't interested or I can't get anything going with them. I know part of the problem is that I'm not meeting enough single girls (seems like even the single girls I meet have some guy and aren't all that interested in hanging out). I've even become a bit desperate when it comes to meeting new women, I've opened a online dating profile again (and once again it's just filled with unattractive women and attention *****s, so doubt much will come out of it). I've tried going to bars and clubs to meet women, and not much luck there either (it didn't help that I had no fun going by myself, but lately I keep getting ditched by ppl to hang out). How did you guys start spinning plates?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
How are you supposed to start spinning plates?
- Thread starter Scion
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If you are not able to approach or talk to random women you won't get anywhere. That's all you need really. Go to malls, college campuses, libraries and just all the trendy places where women hang out in your town. Start talking to random women, try to get numbers, get dates, repeat.
The problem is that guys get a number, get a date, then they put all their effort into this one girl that gave them the time of day. You need to get your mentality away from getting 1 woman and into repeating the process even if you get yourself a woman you see on a consistent basis (aka a gf).
If you go out dressed sharp, clean, confident, and start talking to random women on a consistent basis (at least once or twice a week, several approaches a day) you are going to get numbers and eventually dates (unless you are really ugly or your game is just horrible). Just don't stop doing this if you manage to score with a girl. You need to keep going out and approaching and getting more dates even if you are already dating.
The problem is that guys get a number, get a date, then they put all their effort into this one girl that gave them the time of day. You need to get your mentality away from getting 1 woman and into repeating the process even if you get yourself a woman you see on a consistent basis (aka a gf).
If you go out dressed sharp, clean, confident, and start talking to random women on a consistent basis (at least once or twice a week, several approaches a day) you are going to get numbers and eventually dates (unless you are really ugly or your game is just horrible). Just don't stop doing this if you manage to score with a girl. You need to keep going out and approaching and getting more dates even if you are already dating.
I can talk to random people. However I don't seem to get any respect from women. They just blow me off and otherwise lie to me. I also try and pursue more than 1 girl, but sometimes I just run out of girls (this is the case right now, I currently have zero prospects after nexting 3 girls in the last 2 days).
First place to start to increase confidence is to talk to women whether they are ugly, pretty, fat, skinny, young, old, tall or skinny, this will break the approach anxiety. We are all humans we react similiarly to the same stimulus'
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.