For the most part the fact that I'm terrible with women doesn't bother me too much. However I still feel that I should be dating women, but have no idea where to start. You can check out any of the threads I've made about various women. And the common thing is that they either aren't interested or I can't get anything going with them. I know part of the problem is that I'm not meeting enough single girls (seems like even the single girls I meet have some guy and aren't all that interested in hanging out). I've even become a bit desperate when it comes to meeting new women, I've opened a online dating profile again (and once again it's just filled with unattractive women and attention *****s, so doubt much will come out of it). I've tried going to bars and clubs to meet women, and not much luck there either (it didn't help that I had no fun going by myself, but lately I keep getting ditched by ppl to hang out). How did you guys start spinning plates?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
How are you supposed to start spinning plates?
- Thread starter Scion
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If you are not able to approach or talk to random women you won't get anywhere. That's all you need really. Go to malls, college campuses, libraries and just all the trendy places where women hang out in your town. Start talking to random women, try to get numbers, get dates, repeat.
The problem is that guys get a number, get a date, then they put all their effort into this one girl that gave them the time of day. You need to get your mentality away from getting 1 woman and into repeating the process even if you get yourself a woman you see on a consistent basis (aka a gf).
If you go out dressed sharp, clean, confident, and start talking to random women on a consistent basis (at least once or twice a week, several approaches a day) you are going to get numbers and eventually dates (unless you are really ugly or your game is just horrible). Just don't stop doing this if you manage to score with a girl. You need to keep going out and approaching and getting more dates even if you are already dating.
The problem is that guys get a number, get a date, then they put all their effort into this one girl that gave them the time of day. You need to get your mentality away from getting 1 woman and into repeating the process even if you get yourself a woman you see on a consistent basis (aka a gf).
If you go out dressed sharp, clean, confident, and start talking to random women on a consistent basis (at least once or twice a week, several approaches a day) you are going to get numbers and eventually dates (unless you are really ugly or your game is just horrible). Just don't stop doing this if you manage to score with a girl. You need to keep going out and approaching and getting more dates even if you are already dating.
I can talk to random people. However I don't seem to get any respect from women. They just blow me off and otherwise lie to me. I also try and pursue more than 1 girl, but sometimes I just run out of girls (this is the case right now, I currently have zero prospects after nexting 3 girls in the last 2 days).
First place to start to increase confidence is to talk to women whether they are ugly, pretty, fat, skinny, young, old, tall or skinny, this will break the approach anxiety. We are all humans we react similiarly to the same stimulus'
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.