For the most part the fact that I'm terrible with women doesn't bother me too much. However I still feel that I should be dating women, but have no idea where to start. You can check out any of the threads I've made about various women. And the common thing is that they either aren't interested or I can't get anything going with them. I know part of the problem is that I'm not meeting enough single girls (seems like even the single girls I meet have some guy and aren't all that interested in hanging out). I've even become a bit desperate when it comes to meeting new women, I've opened a online dating profile again (and once again it's just filled with unattractive women and attention *****s, so doubt much will come out of it). I've tried going to bars and clubs to meet women, and not much luck there either (it didn't help that I had no fun going by myself, but lately I keep getting ditched by ppl to hang out). How did you guys start spinning plates?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How are you supposed to start spinning plates?
- Thread starter Scion
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
If you are not able to approach or talk to random women you won't get anywhere. That's all you need really. Go to malls, college campuses, libraries and just all the trendy places where women hang out in your town. Start talking to random women, try to get numbers, get dates, repeat.
The problem is that guys get a number, get a date, then they put all their effort into this one girl that gave them the time of day. You need to get your mentality away from getting 1 woman and into repeating the process even if you get yourself a woman you see on a consistent basis (aka a gf).
If you go out dressed sharp, clean, confident, and start talking to random women on a consistent basis (at least once or twice a week, several approaches a day) you are going to get numbers and eventually dates (unless you are really ugly or your game is just horrible). Just don't stop doing this if you manage to score with a girl. You need to keep going out and approaching and getting more dates even if you are already dating.
The problem is that guys get a number, get a date, then they put all their effort into this one girl that gave them the time of day. You need to get your mentality away from getting 1 woman and into repeating the process even if you get yourself a woman you see on a consistent basis (aka a gf).
If you go out dressed sharp, clean, confident, and start talking to random women on a consistent basis (at least once or twice a week, several approaches a day) you are going to get numbers and eventually dates (unless you are really ugly or your game is just horrible). Just don't stop doing this if you manage to score with a girl. You need to keep going out and approaching and getting more dates even if you are already dating.
I can talk to random people. However I don't seem to get any respect from women. They just blow me off and otherwise lie to me. I also try and pursue more than 1 girl, but sometimes I just run out of girls (this is the case right now, I currently have zero prospects after nexting 3 girls in the last 2 days).
First place to start to increase confidence is to talk to women whether they are ugly, pretty, fat, skinny, young, old, tall or skinny, this will break the approach anxiety. We are all humans we react similiarly to the same stimulus'
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.