Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Wow, violent one here. I'd like to put those gallow-looking things in Palomar's parking lot to use myself... hehOriginally posted by metahuman
How about more censorship? For instance, I'd like to see Giovanni Casanova castrated and hanged, but if that's not possible at the moment, perhaps a silencing will do.
CENSORSHIP! CENSORSHIP! CENSORSHIP!
Metahuman(/Demon) got banned beceuse he is an atheist and just a little opinionated. He has a tendency to respond a bit too aggressively, and often at a reading level too high for some of the other posters. Due to his refusal to kiss a$$, certian cry-baby AFC's demaned that he be banned because he hurt their tender little feelings. (AWWWW!)Originally posted by MVPlaya
Why did metahuman get banned?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
No, he hasn't: None of the people named there would consistently badger and berate those who differed with them. None of those would, nearly every time they wrote something, find some new way to vilipend and criticize people whose opinions differed.Originally posted by WaterTiger
Metahuman has now joined the illustrious ranks of other who were also banned for their opinions. Galileo, Thomas Jefferson, Charles Darwin, Jesus, Dr. Seuess, Gandhi...etc.
I DID say he was a bit aggressive!Originally posted by Von Neuen
No, he hasn't: None of the people named there would consistently badger and berate those who differed with them. None of those would, nearly every time they wrote something, find some new way to vilipend and criticize people whose opinions differed.
lady you didnt see most of his posts i am guessingOriginally posted by WaterTiger
I DID say he was a bit aggressive!
Conflict is a strong bonding influence. It draws a line and insists you choose a side. By choosing a side you also are inclined to bond with those who are on "your" side. You share a common ideal.
Conflict also teaches you to stand up for what you believe. Even if someone tells you that you're wrong or silly for those beliefs. You learn to hang tough. Conflict teaches you strength.
Although his technique might be questionable, I do think he brought valuable lessons to the board. And I also think banning him was a bit harsh. But that's my opinion.![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i dont think i have ever gotten into a flame war with demon, i do belive that i am one of the few.Originally posted by WaterTiger
How is it that I can interact with him without hostility and you can't?