"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How about a NEWBIE Handle?

Mukester

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How about a newbie handle?

We are getting loads of very AFC posts on the forum. I know its great that we all help each other, but some people are just coming onto this forum, spilling they're guts how they got dumped and wanting a response, without even having any concept of anything slightly DJ.

Any thoughts....?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what do you mean by "handle"?

Personally, as a newbie, I think your idea has merit insofar as I understand it to mean that newbies should be directed towards learning dj concepts before whining about their problems. But is this not what the bible is for?
 

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Originally posted by Edge:
Maybe we should have used this idea on you when you first started...
-Where's the smiley that blushes..? Good research, Edge!

Originally posted Junglist:
by what do you mean by "handle"?
-Yeah the theory is sound but many dont read the bible and post regardless. By "handle" i mean that little 'id tag' under your name that refers to you as a 'don juan'. I reckon that by having a newbie handle it would ensure the 'newbies' realsie that they gotta make an effort and do a bit of reading before they post. It would also allow other DJ's to traget their efforts more effectively
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SexPDX

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All this posting about finding ways to distinguish more experienced members or "masters" from newbies is getting a little out of hand IMO.

You can tell from the post whether or not it is a newbie posting and if you can't then you are most likely a newbie yourself.

If you want to see the redundant posting decline, volunteer to be a mod if you care that much. This board is lax on moderation. I am not complaining, just observing. The GOOD thing about lax moderation is that it helps the quality of conversation. The BAD thing, however, is that it diminishes the quality of MATERIAL because the forum becomes cluttered with redundant discussions. Maybe somewhere in between is the way to go, but I really doubt coming up with new ways of deciding who is or is not a newbie is really going to help the problem.

-PDX
 

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Originally posted by SexPDX
If you want to see the redundant posting decline, volunteer to be a mod if you care that much. This board is lax on moderation. I am not complaining, just observing. The GOOD thing about lax moderation is that it helps the quality of conversation. The BAD thing, however, is that it diminishes the quality of MATERIAL because the forum becomes cluttered with redundant discussions. Maybe somewhere in between is the way to go, but I really doubt coming up with new ways of deciding who is or is not a newbie is really going to help the problem.

-PDX

Here's a fairly simple solution to this that could be added to the forum setup. Moderators could have a control that let's them flag threads or posts within threads as clutter. Likewise, posters could choose whether to view the board with the clutter added or not shown. If the board was viewed with clutter added, the poster could also choose whether to have the clutter have a different background color. I'm not a big bulletin board poster so I don't know if this feature is already provided in a bulletin board somewhere, but it would be fairly simple to implement.

Of course, the downside to this is the bullsh*t politics of what gets flagged as clutter or not. Personally, I think the less moderation the better.
 

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Originally posted by darkhorse
Here's a fairly simple solution to this that could be added to the forum setup. Moderators could have a control that let's them flag threads or posts within threads as clutter. Likewise, posters could choose whether to view the board with the clutter added or not shown. If the board was viewed with clutter added, the poster could also choose whether to have the clutter have a different background color. I'm not a big bulletin board poster so I don't know if this feature is already provided in a bulletin board somewhere, but it would be fairly simple to implement.

Of course, the downside to this is the bullsh*t politics of what gets flagged as clutter or not. Personally, I think the less moderation the better.
OR you could just develop clear posting guidelines, post a link to said guidelines in a prominent spot on the board and anything that is CLEARLY clutter based on those guidelines can be REMOVED when encountered by a mod. And anyone who KEEPS posting "clutter" can be banned.

The political issues disappear once there are agreed upon posting guidlines that all posters are made aware of. I don't, however, see much point to calling something "clutter" then leave it there when it would be just as easily deleted altogether.

-PDX
 

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Originally posted by SexPDX
I don't, however, see much point to calling something "clutter" then leave it there when it would be just as easily deleted altogether.

-PDX

Maybe "clutter" was a poor choice of words. The point was to try to deal with the bad results of lax moderation you mentioned while also preserving its good results. Allowing user-selectable views of material would keep the forum an open one while also allowing people a tighter restriction of content if they so wish. The selection could also be done in the opposite direction - moderators could flag material as "choice" material that's quality and dead on the subject. People could choose to view only that material or could choose to view the wider range of discussion of the full board.
 

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Well I know when I came here I read all the tips in the Hall of Fame. Then I registered to the forum, read The Bible, and started posting.

There should be more pressure on the new guys to read at least the HS Bible, and then start to post.

Further more, I agree with Nick, that if you can't tell whats bullSh!t
then you are probably a newb.
If anykind of filter is considered, it should be considered to help the newbs.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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