"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How about a NEWBIE Handle?

Mukester

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How about a newbie handle?

We are getting loads of very AFC posts on the forum. I know its great that we all help each other, but some people are just coming onto this forum, spilling they're guts how they got dumped and wanting a response, without even having any concept of anything slightly DJ.

Any thoughts....?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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what do you mean by "handle"?

Personally, as a newbie, I think your idea has merit insofar as I understand it to mean that newbies should be directed towards learning dj concepts before whining about their problems. But is this not what the bible is for?
 

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Originally posted by Edge:
Maybe we should have used this idea on you when you first started...
-Where's the smiley that blushes..? Good research, Edge!

Originally posted Junglist:
by what do you mean by "handle"?
-Yeah the theory is sound but many dont read the bible and post regardless. By "handle" i mean that little 'id tag' under your name that refers to you as a 'don juan'. I reckon that by having a newbie handle it would ensure the 'newbies' realsie that they gotta make an effort and do a bit of reading before they post. It would also allow other DJ's to traget their efforts more effectively
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SexPDX

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All this posting about finding ways to distinguish more experienced members or "masters" from newbies is getting a little out of hand IMO.

You can tell from the post whether or not it is a newbie posting and if you can't then you are most likely a newbie yourself.

If you want to see the redundant posting decline, volunteer to be a mod if you care that much. This board is lax on moderation. I am not complaining, just observing. The GOOD thing about lax moderation is that it helps the quality of conversation. The BAD thing, however, is that it diminishes the quality of MATERIAL because the forum becomes cluttered with redundant discussions. Maybe somewhere in between is the way to go, but I really doubt coming up with new ways of deciding who is or is not a newbie is really going to help the problem.

-PDX
 

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Originally posted by SexPDX
If you want to see the redundant posting decline, volunteer to be a mod if you care that much. This board is lax on moderation. I am not complaining, just observing. The GOOD thing about lax moderation is that it helps the quality of conversation. The BAD thing, however, is that it diminishes the quality of MATERIAL because the forum becomes cluttered with redundant discussions. Maybe somewhere in between is the way to go, but I really doubt coming up with new ways of deciding who is or is not a newbie is really going to help the problem.

-PDX

Here's a fairly simple solution to this that could be added to the forum setup. Moderators could have a control that let's them flag threads or posts within threads as clutter. Likewise, posters could choose whether to view the board with the clutter added or not shown. If the board was viewed with clutter added, the poster could also choose whether to have the clutter have a different background color. I'm not a big bulletin board poster so I don't know if this feature is already provided in a bulletin board somewhere, but it would be fairly simple to implement.

Of course, the downside to this is the bullsh*t politics of what gets flagged as clutter or not. Personally, I think the less moderation the better.
 

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Originally posted by darkhorse
Here's a fairly simple solution to this that could be added to the forum setup. Moderators could have a control that let's them flag threads or posts within threads as clutter. Likewise, posters could choose whether to view the board with the clutter added or not shown. If the board was viewed with clutter added, the poster could also choose whether to have the clutter have a different background color. I'm not a big bulletin board poster so I don't know if this feature is already provided in a bulletin board somewhere, but it would be fairly simple to implement.

Of course, the downside to this is the bullsh*t politics of what gets flagged as clutter or not. Personally, I think the less moderation the better.
OR you could just develop clear posting guidelines, post a link to said guidelines in a prominent spot on the board and anything that is CLEARLY clutter based on those guidelines can be REMOVED when encountered by a mod. And anyone who KEEPS posting "clutter" can be banned.

The political issues disappear once there are agreed upon posting guidlines that all posters are made aware of. I don't, however, see much point to calling something "clutter" then leave it there when it would be just as easily deleted altogether.

-PDX
 

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Originally posted by SexPDX
I don't, however, see much point to calling something "clutter" then leave it there when it would be just as easily deleted altogether.

-PDX

Maybe "clutter" was a poor choice of words. The point was to try to deal with the bad results of lax moderation you mentioned while also preserving its good results. Allowing user-selectable views of material would keep the forum an open one while also allowing people a tighter restriction of content if they so wish. The selection could also be done in the opposite direction - moderators could flag material as "choice" material that's quality and dead on the subject. People could choose to view only that material or could choose to view the wider range of discussion of the full board.
 

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Well I know when I came here I read all the tips in the Hall of Fame. Then I registered to the forum, read The Bible, and started posting.

There should be more pressure on the new guys to read at least the HS Bible, and then start to post.

Further more, I agree with Nick, that if you can't tell whats bullSh!t
then you are probably a newb.
If anykind of filter is considered, it should be considered to help the newbs.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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