"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hottie In Class

In10se

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Ok so today was the first day of classes for my last semester as an undergrad...cool. I go to a commuter college in NYC, so for those you who don't know there isn't much of a community or party scene. I'm from Long Island where I do most of my gaming, there are some quality women at my school but they work two jobs and live in any of the 5 boroughs.

To the point: I have a class with a girl that trumps Megan Fox, I'm talking huge blue eyes, perfect lips, and she wasn't even wearing much makeup. We made some brief eye contact, but she got flagged over to sit by some nerdy asian that knew her. I have class with her on Wednesday again and can position myself logistically so she sits next to me, but I want to handle her skillfully. Express vague interest, and get some contact info, but not show my hand right off the bat. We both have Iphones, so sometimes I like to show a cool app or anything that doesn't say "Hey I REALLY want to **** you". Any suggestions/tips/ideas/ welcome.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Look for any convo opener. Iphone app thing could work, ask her something the professor just said, etc Could always just hi and go from there as well
 

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yeah the actually opener is a cake walk I just want to take this interaction in the right direction... get her interested in me as soon as possible... if I end up putting in all the work then I know I'll be categorized with every other guy that hits on her... I can do some light kino here and there, but I'm looking for some more detailed advice
 

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If you are not getting buying signals, keep working out until you do. She should hold eye contact and smile. F*ck the IPhone.
 

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I mean I am working out pretty regularly, but the lack of smile is not going to stop me from trying.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You are already way too concerned about the outcome of this situation. You're worried about how she's going to perceive you. You have to let that stuff go. If you can't relax, you are likely to blow it regardless of what you do. You have to remember that pickup is not chess. If you approach it from the angle of using mental strategy, you will lose.

Just relax and be cool. Focus on creating a fun and comfortable vibe. That's going to get you a lot further than where you are sitting or what's on your phone. Vibe and feelings are the most important things here.
 

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well I can't really ask for advice without giving details, and my club game basically revolves around more physical and sexual escalation...however when I'm in a daygame/classroom I really don't know how to avoid slipping into nice guy/friend territory...I want to get her number/facebook with her understanding I'm interested in her as a sexual prospect...not a homework buddy
 

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In10se said:
Ok so today was the first day of classes for my last semester as an undergrad...cool. I go to a commuter college in NYC, so for those you who don't know there isn't much of a community or party scene. I'm from Long Island where I do most of my gaming, there are some quality women at my school but they work two jobs and live in any of the 5 boroughs.

To the point: I have a class with a girl that trumps Megan Fox, I'm talking huge blue eyes, perfect lips, and she wasn't even wearing much makeup. We made some brief eye contact, but she got flagged over to sit by some nerdy asian that knew her. I have class with her on Wednesday again and can position myself logistically so she sits next to me, but I want to handle her skillfully. Express vague interest, and get some contact info, but not show my hand right off the bat. We both have Iphones, so sometimes I like to show a cool app or anything that doesn't say "Hey I REALLY want to **** you". Any suggestions/tips/ideas/ welcome.

Read this article and tips. Pretty good advice for your situation.

http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-perfect-10-girls
 

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Does that skinny black dude who works in the "urban shopping floor" at Saks on 5th avenue (the floor where all the jeans are pushed towards the wall...not the floor with the suits and that s---- cafe) know your name (he often works at the cash register by the jeans...I refuse to give his name - that wouldn't be cool)? Do you spend silly amounts of time at Nespresso on the Upper East Side in those chairs under that picture of the broad with the red lips? Do you have a flat/apartment within walking distance to any of those locations? If you answer with a no to all of these questions you will lose. NYC is the shi--iest place on earth to look for anything decent. Horrible. You would do a lot better going north to Canada. Hell, go to the Kansas. Anywhere but NYC.
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
You are already way too concerned about the outcome of this situation. You're worried about how she's going to perceive you. You have to let that stuff go. If you can't relax, you are likely to blow it regardless of what you do. You have to remember that pickup is not chess. If you approach it from the angle of using mental strategy, you will lose.

Just relax and be cool. Focus on creating a fun and comfortable vibe. That's going to get you a lot further than where you are sitting or what's on your phone. Vibe and feelings are the most important things here.

Spot on. Putting her on a pedestal by saying she trumps Megan Fox. Analyzing how he's going to open her and trying to figure out what to say before he has even talked to her period.

Secondly, why is your goal to get contact info (phone # and or FB)? All you should be concerned with is creating attraction. This whole angle of not trying to come off as super casual and matter of fact, instead of embracing your masculinity and being confident will help her see right through you sooner rather than later.

Relax, go talk to her; see if she is even worth your time.






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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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