Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Hottie In Class

In10se

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Ok so today was the first day of classes for my last semester as an undergrad...cool. I go to a commuter college in NYC, so for those you who don't know there isn't much of a community or party scene. I'm from Long Island where I do most of my gaming, there are some quality women at my school but they work two jobs and live in any of the 5 boroughs.

To the point: I have a class with a girl that trumps Megan Fox, I'm talking huge blue eyes, perfect lips, and she wasn't even wearing much makeup. We made some brief eye contact, but she got flagged over to sit by some nerdy asian that knew her. I have class with her on Wednesday again and can position myself logistically so she sits next to me, but I want to handle her skillfully. Express vague interest, and get some contact info, but not show my hand right off the bat. We both have Iphones, so sometimes I like to show a cool app or anything that doesn't say "Hey I REALLY want to **** you". Any suggestions/tips/ideas/ welcome.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Look for any convo opener. Iphone app thing could work, ask her something the professor just said, etc Could always just hi and go from there as well
 

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yeah the actually opener is a cake walk I just want to take this interaction in the right direction... get her interested in me as soon as possible... if I end up putting in all the work then I know I'll be categorized with every other guy that hits on her... I can do some light kino here and there, but I'm looking for some more detailed advice
 

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If you are not getting buying signals, keep working out until you do. She should hold eye contact and smile. F*ck the IPhone.
 

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I mean I am working out pretty regularly, but the lack of smile is not going to stop me from trying.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You are already way too concerned about the outcome of this situation. You're worried about how she's going to perceive you. You have to let that stuff go. If you can't relax, you are likely to blow it regardless of what you do. You have to remember that pickup is not chess. If you approach it from the angle of using mental strategy, you will lose.

Just relax and be cool. Focus on creating a fun and comfortable vibe. That's going to get you a lot further than where you are sitting or what's on your phone. Vibe and feelings are the most important things here.
 

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well I can't really ask for advice without giving details, and my club game basically revolves around more physical and sexual escalation...however when I'm in a daygame/classroom I really don't know how to avoid slipping into nice guy/friend territory...I want to get her number/facebook with her understanding I'm interested in her as a sexual prospect...not a homework buddy
 

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In10se said:
Ok so today was the first day of classes for my last semester as an undergrad...cool. I go to a commuter college in NYC, so for those you who don't know there isn't much of a community or party scene. I'm from Long Island where I do most of my gaming, there are some quality women at my school but they work two jobs and live in any of the 5 boroughs.

To the point: I have a class with a girl that trumps Megan Fox, I'm talking huge blue eyes, perfect lips, and she wasn't even wearing much makeup. We made some brief eye contact, but she got flagged over to sit by some nerdy asian that knew her. I have class with her on Wednesday again and can position myself logistically so she sits next to me, but I want to handle her skillfully. Express vague interest, and get some contact info, but not show my hand right off the bat. We both have Iphones, so sometimes I like to show a cool app or anything that doesn't say "Hey I REALLY want to **** you". Any suggestions/tips/ideas/ welcome.

Read this article and tips. Pretty good advice for your situation.

http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-perfect-10-girls
 

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Does that skinny black dude who works in the "urban shopping floor" at Saks on 5th avenue (the floor where all the jeans are pushed towards the wall...not the floor with the suits and that s---- cafe) know your name (he often works at the cash register by the jeans...I refuse to give his name - that wouldn't be cool)? Do you spend silly amounts of time at Nespresso on the Upper East Side in those chairs under that picture of the broad with the red lips? Do you have a flat/apartment within walking distance to any of those locations? If you answer with a no to all of these questions you will lose. NYC is the shi--iest place on earth to look for anything decent. Horrible. You would do a lot better going north to Canada. Hell, go to the Kansas. Anywhere but NYC.
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
You are already way too concerned about the outcome of this situation. You're worried about how she's going to perceive you. You have to let that stuff go. If you can't relax, you are likely to blow it regardless of what you do. You have to remember that pickup is not chess. If you approach it from the angle of using mental strategy, you will lose.

Just relax and be cool. Focus on creating a fun and comfortable vibe. That's going to get you a lot further than where you are sitting or what's on your phone. Vibe and feelings are the most important things here.

Spot on. Putting her on a pedestal by saying she trumps Megan Fox. Analyzing how he's going to open her and trying to figure out what to say before he has even talked to her period.

Secondly, why is your goal to get contact info (phone # and or FB)? All you should be concerned with is creating attraction. This whole angle of not trying to come off as super casual and matter of fact, instead of embracing your masculinity and being confident will help her see right through you sooner rather than later.

Relax, go talk to her; see if she is even worth your time.






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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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