"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hot or Not?
- Thread starter Lifeforce
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
MindOverMatter
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1. The main demographic that will be rating your picture - which for hotornot seems to be 14-25 year old middle class white suburban girls from the US.
2. The popular trend at the time - this time its either hiphop or A&F etc.
3. Your picture - look good.
To get a 9.9 just stay fit and look like the current trend or the all-american boy.
Dover
Don Juan
I havent checked this in ages.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
h2o
Banned
seriously...an hour a day? :crackup:
i got an 8.5 for my face only... after about 500 votes...i don't check it anymore though...
some girls just have high votes because they're wearing something skimpy...because their faces sometimes looks crap, but because they're showing cleavage, they're 7s or 8s...imo, that's bull
eh, who cares anyway though...i hate how you have to pay to send emails to girls who are your double-matches
If you're hispanic, asian, or middle-eastern, look out. No matter how good you look, you will get rated lower than the all-american. This doesn't mean you're less attractive, just that people are biased.
You're not based SOLELY on your looks but also on the quality of the photo. Make sure it's vibrant and crisp and that people can see your face.
Fitness is priority one. Fat people never score well on hotornot, and chubby people get points deducted.
Priority two is a tie between skin and hair. One pimple on your chin can ruin your rating. Try to take a picture that shows you at your best in this regard. Have a stylish haircut. It helps a LOT.
Shezzler, the pic is blurry, the pose is a bit weird, and your short haircut highlights your large forehead. Not trying to be an *******, just honest. I have a big forehead too. You should consider sweeping some hair along the sides of your head to minimize the boldness of your forehead. I know this because I have a big forehead too.
With a lot of tweaks, I brought myself from a 6.5 to a 9.6.
This mainly involved my hairstyle, skin, style, and picture quality... so yeah.
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=OZBSEYH&key=CDJ
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=BYSSBUK&key=HJY
Those are my new pics. 9.8 and 9
http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y190/Stinger911/WFDevinKelly42.jpg
There's the old AFC me of 3 years ago. I didn't get this one rated but I'm sure it would be a lot lower, and I was just a mess internally back then.
Cheers,
-Duke
Vandermast
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
h2o
Banned
i hope you don't want to take him for a test driveOriginally posted by Vandermast
Why do I get the idea, Shezzler, that you are trying to sell me a used car
:crackup:
edit...i don't get what you meant by that?
My Hot Or Not picOriginally posted by The_Shezzler
Its a different picture every time!!
Sarge on...
soz about that
Laterz...
Yeah I've noticed that too. Take an indian or hispanic girl and put them up against a girl of equal(ok, so this is hard to measure) beauty that looks american, and the white girl will always win.
I've gone through HoN and seen smoking smoking hot indian and black girls who get rated 7's, then I see a toothpick white girl who looks like an inbred hick from virginia, but because she's white and skinny, she gets a 9.
HoN is not a good measuring stick.
Everyone agrees on what is ugly, but few agree on beauty.
That is why that smokin hot latina or indian chick will never get the 9.9: most USAers don't find that look attractive, be it racism, personal preference, ignorance, trendiness etc. However, some pudgy bottle blonde with a good cleavage shot will get 10s down the board.
On the other side of the coin, ugly people of ALL races and colors get 2s and 1s. Fat is fat, no matter who your parents are.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.