"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Hot or Not?
- Thread starter Lifeforce
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MindOverMatter
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1. The main demographic that will be rating your picture - which for hotornot seems to be 14-25 year old middle class white suburban girls from the US.
2. The popular trend at the time - this time its either hiphop or A&F etc.
3. Your picture - look good.
To get a 9.9 just stay fit and look like the current trend or the all-american boy.
Dover
Don Juan
I havent checked this in ages.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
h2o
Banned
seriously...an hour a day? :crackup:
i got an 8.5 for my face only... after about 500 votes...i don't check it anymore though...
some girls just have high votes because they're wearing something skimpy...because their faces sometimes looks crap, but because they're showing cleavage, they're 7s or 8s...imo, that's bull
eh, who cares anyway though...i hate how you have to pay to send emails to girls who are your double-matches
If you're hispanic, asian, or middle-eastern, look out. No matter how good you look, you will get rated lower than the all-american. This doesn't mean you're less attractive, just that people are biased.
You're not based SOLELY on your looks but also on the quality of the photo. Make sure it's vibrant and crisp and that people can see your face.
Fitness is priority one. Fat people never score well on hotornot, and chubby people get points deducted.
Priority two is a tie between skin and hair. One pimple on your chin can ruin your rating. Try to take a picture that shows you at your best in this regard. Have a stylish haircut. It helps a LOT.
Shezzler, the pic is blurry, the pose is a bit weird, and your short haircut highlights your large forehead. Not trying to be an *******, just honest. I have a big forehead too. You should consider sweeping some hair along the sides of your head to minimize the boldness of your forehead. I know this because I have a big forehead too.
With a lot of tweaks, I brought myself from a 6.5 to a 9.6.
This mainly involved my hairstyle, skin, style, and picture quality... so yeah.
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=OZBSEYH&key=CDJ
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=BYSSBUK&key=HJY
Those are my new pics. 9.8 and 9
http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y190/Stinger911/WFDevinKelly42.jpg
There's the old AFC me of 3 years ago. I didn't get this one rated but I'm sure it would be a lot lower, and I was just a mess internally back then.
Cheers,
-Duke
Vandermast
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
h2o
Banned
i hope you don't want to take him for a test driveOriginally posted by Vandermast
Why do I get the idea, Shezzler, that you are trying to sell me a used car
:crackup:
edit...i don't get what you meant by that?
My Hot Or Not picOriginally posted by The_Shezzler
Its a different picture every time!!
Sarge on...
soz about that
Laterz...
Yeah I've noticed that too. Take an indian or hispanic girl and put them up against a girl of equal(ok, so this is hard to measure) beauty that looks american, and the white girl will always win.
I've gone through HoN and seen smoking smoking hot indian and black girls who get rated 7's, then I see a toothpick white girl who looks like an inbred hick from virginia, but because she's white and skinny, she gets a 9.
HoN is not a good measuring stick.
Everyone agrees on what is ugly, but few agree on beauty.
That is why that smokin hot latina or indian chick will never get the 9.9: most USAers don't find that look attractive, be it racism, personal preference, ignorance, trendiness etc. However, some pudgy bottle blonde with a good cleavage shot will get 10s down the board.
On the other side of the coin, ugly people of ALL races and colors get 2s and 1s. Fat is fat, no matter who your parents are.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.